Relationships that begin with co-dependent partners form toxic Codependent Connections" and never end well. The old saying "Misery loves company" means just that, people that are depressed look for others to make them well, they seek saving in every one they meet. It's not healthy for negative minds to spend time alone, not only can they become comfortable with each others negativity a feel a sense of comfort in it, but they become addicted to it.
The more you get to know each other the deeper your connection grows. All the while it's based on co-dependent connection. The problem is negativity and your connected by it, thriving off it's power and the feelings your experiencing because of it. In the beginning your actually experiencing an emotional high- expressing all that negativity with no rejection forms a bond that both of you are benefiting from . You have permission to be as negative as you want no matter where you go as long as your together. As time passes you will find yourselves more and more dependent upon each other than before.
Just like the smell of a new car or a new shirt fades over time, so does the excitement of the Codependent Connection. What started out feeling like fate is quickly turning into a unhealthy and unsatisfying relationship. The euphoria has turned into feelings of doubt and loneliness again. This is a great time to cut your ties with that problem and move on. It's your 1st real chance to make a clean break away before it's too late. Sure, it's easier said than done right? No, actually it's easier done than said if you just do it! Once you start talking about it you are heading the wrong way. If it doesn't feel right anymore or your problem that you've grown to hate is all you have in common than YAYYYY for you.... Get out while you can...
What can you do when you've become addicted or dependent upon that Codependent Connection? How do you stop talking and start doing? Faith, desire and consistency are huge tools and they reside within all of us. When you have created a life that feels safe and familiar it can seem almost impossible to see change. If you'll notice I didn't say impossible to change, but impossible to see change and that's where it all begins. If you can't see it than you can't achieve it right? You have to first believe something is possible before you set out to achieve it. The smallest amount of belief is all you need to set the mind in motion. If you can believe it, you can achieve it!!!!
We can think about change for so long we end up talking ourselves right out of it. We believed that change would do us more harm than good. We saw life to hard on our own so we decide to stay safe with our chaos. The fear of the unknown or of failing keeps us from going for it. All it takes it the faith of a mustard seed and and I promise you things in your life will get better once you start believing they can be better.
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