How to Fix your People Problems

Plan B

The problem with us building a life around a job, marriage, money etc is that once you lose one or all your life falls apart. We become creatures of habit so often and begin functioning based on our dependency upon certain things. Think about the wife who married here high school sweetheart 20 years ago and stayed home to raise their children while he supported the family. She hasn't loved her husband after the second time she caught him cheating on her and wants a divorce. Sure she's probably going to get half of the material shit and a bit of alimony for a while but that's not going to support her forever. She never went to college because her husband told her she should stay home and raise the children. If she had known how important it was to ensure herself that no matter what she could always depend on herself than she might have gone to college. She might have told her husband I don't want to stay at home, I want to establish my own independence just as well as your trying to establish one. I can still be a good mother and wife to you with the assurance that if anything changes or happens to you than the children and I are going to be ok.

Hind sight is 20/20 right? We forget sometimes to think things through before we jump into them. Maybe we get tricked into things because we have figured out how to love ourselves yet. What's wrong with having a back up plan? It's not a bad thing and if it intimidates someone well that's only because they don't understand it and that's not your concern. You should never have to make excuses for the plans you make in life. We are the only person we should count on at all times to take care of us. Of course their might come a day when we can no longer take care of our self and that's what our children and nurses are for right?

The only insurance that your going to make it in this world no matter what happens or who's in your life is to depend on your self. If you lose your job because of layoffs or the company closes you keep going and find another job. When you leave your husband after 20 years, no job history or skill to lean on seems far worse doesn't it? My point is, place your survival in your own hands at all times and you can never go wrong. As long as you know you've got you then you can fall in love, get married and even divorced if it doesn't work. You'll know that your an independent person who's capable of making it on your own no matter who or what you lose.

If your with you than everyone else can be against you and you'll still be ok