One Ummah

Don't Judge Me

It's like when your in a particular situation and the one thing and you worry about are those people who have like all the time in their life judging you.

I think almost every teen can relate to this, even the goody two shoes.

I mean judging someone by how they dress, or feel is wrong,

And I heard things like judge by how they act:

"It's not words, judge them by their actions"

Thats wrong too!!

You can't judge no matter what. Who put you in the spot to judge?!

Even by piety for us humans we can't judge, I mean maybe the good do to show it off (thats between them and Allah)

Good or bad, you don't know the intentions behind it or the particular situation you're in.

Who knows? Allah could have forgiven it for them.

Judging is wrong for all humans period.

Because thats a sign of ignorance

All of us make mistakes

Of course there are times when a person knows better and just tries to help someone for example:

*girl walks by with tight clothes

Lets say i walk up to her and be like:

"Sr, i don't think its good to wear exposing clothes like this"

Then she makes a pissed face "Dont judge"

Thaat's not right.

I mean there's a point to were you ARE actually sinning

Dont judge sounds like you're trying to justify your sins, which is reaaally bad.

You should be open to any advice, i know how it feels though

Like one time i was wearing jeans and a women told me "this isnt good, why you wear jeans and etc."

I felt mad and pissed thinking why is she judging me??! Yet I realize she is right, I mean those jeans were tight.

Trust me I asked my quran teacher and she nice.

So I felt a little ashamed afterwards like I can't believe I wore that to the masjid.

I mean the women had a good attention, not to judge but to advise its really true

Not all adults want to kill us by hating or judging us, according to them they just have different opinions they grew up in

But same side for adults, they should be a little more open minded towards young and teens.

Like I remember during ramadan , i was playing uno at the masjid during teraweeh (girl stuff for those who know)

Anyways so later I came to find out that this lady was scolding my friends about playing cards and blah blah blah

And she even came to my mom later who was like train your daughter to blah blah blah

I have to admit I was pissed, but that was rude, really rude

I mean now that I think about it I understand why and I'm glad she did, because I was missing the rewards of ramadan!!! (Going off topic), I feel guilty after all these years I never fully like tried to seek the goodness, I actually wish someone yelled at me to pray.

But I only understood this later. If adults advise they must do it properly.

You don't always have to yell

Religion doesn't make you more strict and hard its supposed to make the heart soft.

So I see how the adults feel and they are right

But they are not DOING it right by yelling or shouting.

Like seriously? I'm pretty sure the prophet never advised to yell at the children in the masjid (this is another topic)

But ya, judging is wrong. If people try to advise you or vice versa you need to be open minded.

Allah is the best and most high of Judges. Alahmdulilah.