I was talking to my uncle (my mother's brother) who lives in Germany.
Telling him how my father's brother is visiting and I really don't want to see him because he's so selfish and annoying.
"I know they've put your mom through so much in her marriage I don't like them either," he said preferring to my father's siblings, "and your mom was always so sweet she never stopped them, she never said no to them, she never forbid them from taking so much from your father."
I already knew all of this and that's why I don't really like my father's side that much, they only remembered us when they wanted something and it pissed me off.
"They still use him and her, my aunts make fun of her whenever they get the chance to and she doesn't care which angers me so much." I said.
"Honey listen, god gave us a gift, having a family is a gift, you shouldn't waste it being angry at people, no matter what they do," he paused, "life is amazing, live it, love the people who love you, love yourself, make it better, work on yourself to be a good human, be good to people no matter what, and the ones that hurt you get away from them, don't allow them to affect your life in a bad way. You own yourself, you own your heart, be you.
What are you going to get from being angry at people ? Nothing. You're intelligent, gorgeous, with a great personality, sweet heart that doesn't hold grudges, you shouldn't waste these things on people who don't appreciate them. Family is all you have either you like it or not-,"
"No, parents and siblings are all I have, uncles and aunts are not people I can count on." I cut him off saying.
"Yes but what if you need them ? And believe me you will, they are you family after all."
He was right, sort of.
His talk got me thinking.
He was right, no one has told me this stuff before, we never had this kind of talk, he was being so honest and amazing.
I think we really shouldn't waste our time worrying about others, being angry at others because what's the point ? You're angry at someone, what's next ? Are you going to confront them ? If yes go on then, if no then why are you wasting your time, health and mind on them, let them go.
I know what most of you are thinking, if you don't hold grudges how are angry at your family ?
Well my friend, I cannot bear the thought of someone I love being used, if it's me it's fine, but when it comes to my family that is a red bold danger line.
I don't hate my cousins or father's siblings, it's just that the way they use him frustrates me, and for my cousins I could never hate those assholes, I would never give them up for anything.
