Unpopular Opinions

Its just a phase

This of course goes with my last chapter and I think this is something that you just really shouldn't say to someone. Yes people can go through phases but to tell me that the way I dress, act or the music I like is just a phase is so wrong. It takes a lot of strength to be who you are and to let the world see it. And it sucks to have that shit torn down. And hey it just might be but to have an entire part of my life invalidated because well "Its just a phase." Also when does it stop. If you've been going through this phase for 3 years when does it stop being a phase and start being accepted as a part of you. The following is something is an excerpt I saved from an article  a while ago that I think supports my point. 

"We've all heard it at least once before, whether about us or someone else. You know, someone does something unexpected and then continues to do so, and people start talking. "Have you seen the way she's been dressing lately?" "I can't believe she doesn't go there anymore." "Is she really hanging out with those people now?" "I wonder why she dyed her hair..."

An unexpected change in someone is going to draw attention, of course, but that doesn't give people the right to judge another for it. Yes, that's right, saying "it's just a phase" is a judgemental statement. When you say that, you are telling that person that they are wrong in doing whatever they are doing but it's okay because you know it's not permanent behavior.

Unless it is.

And if it is, then you just did a lot more damage than you think. You just told someone that what they have chosen to do or be in this world is wrong, and that liking something different to what you yourself are accustomed to them liking is wrong. Which is in all parts absurd.

If someone has chosen to wear dark clothes now, dye their hair, spend more time out or stop going to certain places, so what? Or maybe it's more serious and they told you they have depression, have changed their religious beliefs, or they came out. Honestly, though, the severity of it really doesn't matter so much as the core objective: don't make other people feel bad for being who they are."

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.theodysseyonline.com/please-stop-saying-its-just-phase.amp 

I'm a black emo girl which is not all that common and I can tell my family has the same attitude that ill get over because I have yet to me a black alternative girl and they probably dont know any either. But it doesn't matter what race or gender you are. Dont let anyone tell you its just a phase and even if it is it doesn't matter. Enjoy who you are now and embrace who you are later even if its not the same person.