LGBTQ+ Struggles

Problem #5

yeah people have their own predispositions and they never think they're in the wrong, they will say anything to defend themselves.

They think it's funny or a joke to throw insults around because I don't think they realize what we're actually going through. Nor do they care. sometimes they try to get involved so that they feel like they're supporting but they're really not.

for example my aunt tried to lecture me, a bisexual, about the definition of bisexuality that she had learned from a BOOK.

i know she doesn't think she's being terrible but she is and she won't accept it if i tell her and she'll fight me on it so it's better to stay quiet but by staying quiet you encourage it and you miss the chance to potentially end it and it's a terrible dilemma.

like there are cis people in my ASL group who were talking about the rights they thought trans people deserved as though they had any right to.

and sometimes people genuinely try to understand but sometimes they Can't because they try to argue THEIR point and it's like,, no i'm teaching you,, you are not the expert here, like "you can't be ace and polyam!" yes i can who says i can't and why do they get to dictate my life?

and its so subtle when they try to tell you you're wrong when essentially none of these labels are important and we're all gonna die in the end anyway so why not do whatever we want? but they never seem to get it?? and it's frustrating but i can't do anything about it because they don't want to.

and when we try to have our fun and be ourselves we get put down for "making everything about the gays" or "being heterophobic" because the majority power can really be oppressed by the minority right?

like i co-run a gsa and i make sure that everyone respects everyone no matter what. but some of my friends don't want to join because they're afraid of in-community discrimination, like against asexuals.

because gatekeeping is rampant in this community and heaven forbid you're out and friendly to someone of the same-sex you're friends with. god knows we can't help but flirt with EVERYONE right?

- Annabelle, Bisexual