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Getting Over You: Emotionally Abusive Relationship

Getting Over You: Emotionally Abusive Relationship

© 2014 PinkKitten 

Have you read the article about the note discovered at an airport?

True or not I still want to share it with you because it is an inspiring and influential story.

A man finds a note at the San Francisco airport. The front of the note said “READ ME” and following is the full text of the said letter:

I recently left an emotionally abusive relationship.

 

After months of insults I won’t repeat, false accusations, lies, delusions, broken mirrors, nightly battles... I left.

 

I know that I was being poisoned by each day that I stayed. So with a heavy heart, I left my lover of three years, knowing that I had already put it off too long. At first he begged, then he cursed, but eventually he packed his bags and faded out of my life like a bad dream. For the first few weeks, my body seemed to reject this. For three years I had seen the world through him-colored glasses. I didn’t know who I was without him. Despite the kindness of friends and even strangers. I could not help feeling utterly alone. But it was this sense of aloneness that set me free.

 

Somewhere along the way, I let go.

I released all of the painful memories, the names he had called me, the shards of him buried deep in my brain. I stopped believing the things he had made me think about myself.

 

I began to see how extraordinary, breathtakingly beautiful life is. I meditated, drank too much coffee, talked to strangers, laughed at nothing. I wrote poetry and stopped to smell and photograph every flower. Once I discovered that my happiness depends only on myself, nothing could hurt me anymore.

 

I have found and continue to find peace.

 

Each day I am closer to it than I was yesterday. I am a work in progress but I am full to the brim with gratitude and joy. And so, since I have opened a new chapter in my life, I want to peacefully part with the contents of the last chapter.

 

The end of my relationship was the catalyst for a wealth of positive changes in my life. It was a symbol, most importantly; it was an act of self-love. It was a realization that I deserved to be happy and I could choose to be. And so, in an effort to leave behind the things that do not help me grow, I am letting go of a relic from the painful past. I wore this necklace-a gift from him-every day for over two years. To me, letting it go is a joyous declaration that I am moving forward with strength and grace and deep, lasting peace.

 

Please accept this gift as a reminder that we all deserve happiness. Whoever you are, and whatever pain you have faced, I hope you find peace.

 

Namaste,

Jamie

[ A/N: Original picture of the letter at the multimedia box. Right side. ]

The reason that I wanted to share this with you is because I want to raise awareness that not all abusive relationships involve violence. Just because we’re not seeing physical evidence doesn’t mean someone’s not being abused. This story is so important for so many of us especially those who suffer unhealthy, abusive relationships.

Emotional abuse is a bigger problem than you think. The people doing it and receiving it may not even know it’s happening. It can happen to anyone at any time in their lives. Physical violence results to visible scars, scars that might be a constant reminder of the pain in the past.

But think the other way around; physical wounds heal and leave visible scar but emotional scars will always be there and it never really go away. I am certain and I knew because emotionally abused people have their DEEP scars on their souls.

I knew it because unfortunately I was once in that situation. Physical scars go away but the words haunt me. I can still hear the things he told me for so long and it came to a point where I questioned my own sanity. I seemed to look happy and content on the surface but it destroyed me from the inside, making me believe I was worthless and unlovable.  

It takes great strength to leave someone and start over again. Change is always scary but it needs to happen. I leave and I will never look back. I was able to find the love that is inside me and been able share it with others. The woman that I once was has broken free and has found her voice.

Don’t let people walk over you. You are who you choose to be. Just because someone tells you are not worth anything does not change your worth unless you let it. Do not let things define you and act in ways that you'd be proud of.

Find someone who builds you up instead of tearing you down. There is someone for everyone, though it takes time for it to come. Maybe you haven't been looking in the right place. Maybe you just haven't discovered your perfect match yet. Just wait.

Believe in yourself.

There is hope.

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‘Till next update.

xoxo

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