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Getting Over You: Break up Behavior

Getting Over You: Break up Behavior

© 2014 PinkKitten 

Kamusta?

Hello?

Annyeong?

How’s your healing process?

Okay ka na ba?

Crayola pa rin?

So, I am here again to share something I’ve observed and most of all experienced after break up. Mostly are silly observations drawn from my intensely personal experience on how people deal with breakups.

First, some people tend to be obnoxious insensitive human being after relationship failure. I have had breakups where I pretty much went cold so I became that obnoxious insensitive sensitive little brat. Nasaktan ako e. I became sensitive to many things but insensitive to others. I was easily hurt by comments and actions of other people.  I remember how I despised the following phrase “OKAY LANG ‘YON. HUWAG KA NA MAG-INARTE DIYAN. MAKAKAHANAP KA RIN NG IBA.” Seriously? Nagdurugo na ang puso ko ganoon pa kung magsalita? Nakatulong e no? Let’s face it getting dumped is the shittiest of the shit. They say a true friend talks shit to your face but c’mon there’s time and place for that, saying crap and bullsh*t won’t make it any better.

Second, some simply cannot handle reality, so nightlife and increase alcohol consumption to drown sorrows is basically an escape. Remember this is just a momentary escape from heartache; no one heals after chugging down alcohol for kemerut sake! It can rid all the pain “temporarily” but it can prolong the damage.

Advantages:

Booze of course. Bakit umiinom? Dahil sugat. Dahil nasaktan. Nah! Dahil sa alak ‘yan malamang.

Party friends and companions. Tropa moments plus Trippings plus Masayang bonding equals Bye bye heartaches.

Disadvantages:

Possibility of one night stand. Hay nako! ‘Yan ang huwag na huwag na huwag! What worse than getting impregnated guess what tentenenen AIDS/ HIV. Don’t do it. If you can’t handle yourself don’t drink.

Trouble. Ang alak nilalagay sa tiyan hindi sa utak pero karamihan nagiging spartan kapag nakainom. Ahu! ahu! Sarap ipasipa sa mga kabayo.

Third, ang walang kamatayang  “I am alive but dead inside” . Oo ganyan na ganyan ako. This was when my world ended, I gave my entire heart and life and he left. I felt like life wasn’t worth living without the man I treated like a King. Iyak dito iyak doon emotion shifter din ang peg. May walling moments pa kung saan saan. Pwedeng umiyak huwag kang mahiya pero huwag sa CR jusmiyo kapag nadulas-dulas ka pa riyan kakawalling. Durog na nga ang puso mababali pa ang balakang. Tsk. Tsk.

Fourth, the instant religious human beings after breakup. This one is the most dramatic instant healing right after the break-up had occurred. Facebook updates, post and tweets were devotional and bible verses. There’s nothing wrong about it, I find it healthy for those who can keep it. And I feel sorry for those people who share bible verses and devotional messages but keep on cursing and bashing other people.

Lastly, Baby Faker, c’mon gals hindi kailangan gawin ‘yan. Huwag ibaba ang sarili sa ganitong scheme para bumalik si ex. Have some decency for Christ’s sake!  I and my boyfriend experienced this kind of psychotic and desperate act (sorry for the term).

This is the main reason why one of my ex-boyfriend has to break up with me. I gave this man my all, and then one day I found out that he cheated on me. He told me he was sorry over and over again. He told me he was lonely and depressed that he had been drinking heavily to forget things. He has never been open with me about his feelings and does not easily open up to anyone.

I thought we could work through the cheating and lying, but I don’t know how I feel about the fact that he impregnated someone actually not just “someone”. The fact that it was his ex-girlfriend who continuously pursues him makes it more devastating, a heart wrenching pain that I’ve suffered for a long time.

We have no idea if it is his, but she is claiming so. We both tried to fix things but eventually we gave up, I gave up. I had a very hard time dealing with the girl, he tells her he will support her in whatever decision she makes but she insisted that they have to be together. They have to be together like a family.

She constantly creates fuss and trouble. She even claiming to abort or kill herself. My ex-boyfriend obliged by the girls’ family to marry her. So we ended breaking up. I love him but we have to break up. We need to end so they can start creating the family that the child needs.

He has obligations and responsibility to take care. Kahit nasaktan ako sa huling pagkakataon humanga pa rin ako sa kaniya dahil hindi niya tinalikuran ang responsibilidad  kahit ang kapalit pa ang relasyon at pagmamahalan namin.

It was too late when he realized that it was just a scheme, she wasn’t pregnant at all. Para kaming nasa teleserye kaibahan lang wala kaming talent fee, walang camera, walang script, walang director, walang kwenta! Nasa huli ang pagsisisi. Isang beses lang siya nakagawa ng kasalanan pero pinarusahan siya ng pang-habang buhay. He married a liar, a liar that he doesn’t love. I love him but he doesn't know how to be truthful and I knew he had felt my wrath through my silence.

As much as I like to help heal your heart, only time can heal some things. Matinding pasensiya, unawa at pagmamahal sa sarili ang kailangan. Ano man o ano pa man ang pinagdadaanan mo sa ngayon hindi ka nag-iisa.

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You can share with me your own stories of heartache and pain. I want to know how you fought and survive the misery of heart break.

Calling Your Name Again Book 2 will be posted next month. Yay! (Feelingerang may nag-aabang) Haha.

I will post the title of Book 2 next update.

‘Till next.

xoxo