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Getting Over You: Once a cheater, always a cheater?

Getting Over You: Once a cheater, always a cheater?

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So recently I had this bizarre conversation with a friend regarding her experience with her ex-boyfriend.  (OLA AMIGA! Here’s your request. Haha!)

Situation: She had a long distance boyfriend well actually not so long distance, she’s here in Manila and the guy is in hell ooopsie I mean the guy is in the province doing military service. She trusted him so much because the guy is a decent one, for her he’s a man who wouldn’t cheat on her. I actually remember meeting the guy and he’s good looking and undeniably gentleman. That’s why it was a shock that he cheated on my friend!

My friend caught her boyfriend on his Facebook account, a girl posted on his then-boyfriends Facebook wall. She told me that she was shocked by that post and send private message to the girl. They exchanged conversation and showed me the entire thread. In all fairness my friend handled the conversation very classy! (Kudos to you Amiga!)

Later that day, she had the chance to talk with her boyfriend. Before she speaks to him she already told me that she’s not going to pursue him. She broke up with him despite the fact that the guy pleaded her to stay and work their relationship.

I can see her pain but she’s the type of girl who can’t easily express her feelings. She even said “I want to cry but I can’t. These tears were too shy to come out.”

I asked her what would be her plan and if she’s going to give him another chance. I remember her saying “I love him that’s why I trusted him so much but I don’t deserve this kind of pain. He had history of cheating but I ignored it because I believed that he had matured and that our relationship was serious than his previous ones but in the end I was wrong. He cheated on me and I know he can do it again because once a cheater, always a cheater. Everybody deserves a chance, but certainly not everyone including him.”

Her entire story made me realized that there are things that should only happen once. If you let someone cheat on you ONCE, there’s a possibility that they WILL do it again. If you choose to accept his history of cheating then don’t be surprised when he continues being the man that he was the last time you caught him cheating.

As the saying goes, sometimes love really just isn’t enough to keep a relationship alive. If he cheats on you then he's no good. Akala natin simpleng bagay lang ang pangangaliwa pero nag-iiwan ito ng sugat hindi lang para sa taong niloko pero para din sa taong manloloko. Having sex with another person is not the only form of cheating. Cheating comes in a variety of forms, but they are all equally disturbing. Some people who have been cheated by their partner would’ve said that it’s okay that their partner cheated because it’s the trend nowadays.

Holy patatas! Hindi sila nagloloko dahil lang uso may dahilan iyon. Maaring may kulang, may hindi sila gusto o worst wala na ang pagmamahal. Kapag nagawa ka ng lokohin ng taong pinagkakatiwalaan mo ibig sabihin ‘non nawala na ang pagmamahal at respeto niya sa’yo.

Some people think that if they simply do everything their partner wants they will keep them from cheating but the truth is NO. I’ve been in the situation where I stayed in a relationship just for the sake of holding on and having a partner but trust me it’s not fun and healthy. Successful relationships are built on mutual trust and honesty.  Don’t waste time trying to get even. Release people from your life who haven’t proven themselves worthy to be there.

Cheating is a common problem in many relationships. Kahit dito sa Pilipinas napakalaking usapin na nito. Sa mga teleserye tulad ng The Legal Wife, Husband’s Lover at kung ano ano pang ipinapalabas sa telebisyon na tema ang pangangaliwa at pangloloko. Mapatelebisyon at totoong-buhay nag-eexist ‘yan sila. Kahit saan ka magpunta, nandiyan sila. Patuloy na manloloko at manggagamit. Minsan mapapaisip ka na lang ano ba ang nagawa mo para lokohin at saktan ka nila ng ganoon.

Kahit gaano mo isipin ang dahilan nandoon pa rin ang katotoohanan na pinaglaruan ka lang. Kahit subukan mo na intindihin  kung may malalim nga ba na dahilan hindi maiaalis ang katotohanan na ginamit ang iyong kahinaan para sa pansarili nilang kaligayahan.

Kabutihan na ang iyong ibinigay susuklian ka pa ng kasinungalingan at pagbabalat-kayo. Sa panahon ngayon hindi mo na madaling matutukoy kung sino ang huwad sa totoo. May mga pagkakataon na nakangiti sila sa harapan mo pero unti unti nilang ibinibaba ang pagkatao mo.

Sino nga ba ang mas nakakaawa ang taong manloloko o ang taong niloloko?

A/N:

I have a song for this one. Our new favorite in Karaoke.  Click the Youtube link.  

Lyrics after the A/N. 

Sorry for the late updates sobrang busy lang talaga sa work. Naisingit ko lang ngayon dahil naka sick leave ako. Haha kung hindi pa nagkasakit hindi pa makakapag-update.

Promise kapag nakahanap ako ng apartment near work mas mabilis na ko makakapag-update.

On-hold muna ang What Happens After the Kiss pero I will finish the story at the end of the year.

Thankie.

Xoxo

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