Quick A/N: I'm so grateful for all of you who stick around to read. Just to be clear though, I'm not going to be updating on a schedule because I feel that I want to post quality posts over quantity. Also, I really cringe at my old posts, but I will leave them up because so many of you guys voted for them! Please Vote and enjoy this!
So tell me, comment how you guys wear your Hijabs. There's the wrap, the turban, the no-pin flip. I always thought it was okay to wear them all. But over the past couple of years, I've heard criticism, not directed towards me but the hijabis as a whole.
"The turban shows your ears"
"That hijab style shows your neck"
"Yes, you wrapped your scarf, but your chest isn't fully covered."
I know this is a controversial topic, but I'm going to give you my opinion and feel free to debate me out in the comments if you feel otherwise.
I believe that everyone is at a different level of modesty and that modesty is a journey. It's not going to be a line that is always growing upwards, and I think that's okay. You may see a hijabi wearing short sleeves *cough. That was me, at the beginning of my hijab journey 4 years ago. Why was I wearing short sleeves? I can tell you one thing, I didn't know any better. I was a girl who was excited to wear the hijab and I didn't give my clothes a second thought, because at that time I had no idea that hijab was more than just the scarf, it's clothes and manners too ( I learned though guys 😂.)
So enough of that, there's one of my "reasons" for why you shouldn't judge someone on their modesty journey. Another thing you may not know about a certain individual is their intention. In my opinion, if you see someone, anyone not just a hijabi in a tight outfit or dress, you have no right to judge them, slut shame them, or call them a bad person (or bad muslim if they're muslim.) Here's the thing, you don't know the thoughts that run through their head when they choose an outfit. They may be thinking:
"I feel so good about myself in this."
or they might be thinking
"I don't want to look bad when everyone is looking so good."
Point being, you have no idea what their intention is. Even if it's for a boy (aunties gasp) why isthat your problem. How is that going to severely affect you, to the point where you won't be able to live if they continue dressing as they are?
Sometimes I don't understand why hijabis bring down other hijabis. We're not perfect.
But what irritates me beyond belief is MEN thinking they have a say in how we dress.
"Cover properly." Disclaimer: this never happened to me, but I've seen people being treated as such.
I could tell you the same thing, wearing shorts out here in 40 degree weather.
The hijab may or may not be mandatory, there's scholars for it and scholars that say it's optional (I'll make a chapter on this with evidence from both sides) but either way, men don't understand and they never will. It's something they don't have to deal with. Tell me, have you ever seen a Muslim man told off for wearing shorts or not wearing a taqiyah?
I know the muslim ummah is supposed to help each other get closer to God, but I don't think telling people how to dress is the way to do it. If they want to change the way they dress ( like I did) sure go ahead, they gave you their consent. If they don't want to change, how do you think you can make them? But modesty is a journey and that's what I believe.
Here's something fun to do, spot what's clearly wrong with this picture:
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Of course, Alhumdulilah the hijab is a way to earn rewards from our Lord. But I don't think that not wearing it makes us closer to satan, or well according to this diagram, we're pleasant to satan? The hijab is amazing yes, but is it more important than your prayers or giving zakat? You could be a hijabi that doesn't pray, or someone who wears crop tops but doesn't miss one prayer. Modesty is important, but it's not one of the five pillars.
But I like how this picture shows that you don't go from wearing shorts to the hijab. It's a journey. And it might not be the staircase shown here. But no one has the right to judge you. The only thing you should be worrying about is your relationship with God.
So if someone says, you can't wear your hijab like that, just remember this.
I want to continue this topic, but direct its attention to something more heated.
Dina Tokio.
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