Life lessons

Body shaming+ insecurity

I think this is an important topic bcoz this materialistic world is gonna break you one day. They will teach you how to hate yourself. They are gonna make you feel guilty for being yourself, guilty for the way you look, guilty for the way you feel, guilty for the way you think, guilty for everything you are.
So firstly let's talk about body shaming. Does you appearance matter?
Yes it do matter.
Does people really treat others differently based on their appearance?
Yes they do, not everyone but some or most of the people do.
They make you horrible when you don't match their beauty standard. And we have already talk about this earlier.
So in these beauty standards of beauty there is something called body structure, some people prefer skinny girls with thigh gap, collarbones, jaw line and to fit in this group of being skinny, so many girls starves themselves just to be accepted by others, some people prefer thick girls
With big ass, thick thighs but with flat belly and to fit in this group of being thick , some girls exercise to the core that are more than their capability.
There are so many different bodies not just only skinny and thick. I am just giving you the example.
What i am really saying that we try to change ourselves not because we want to but because of others.
We think that if i reached my goal weight i will be happy, it's the most toxic and negative mindset you can ever have, because listen me babes if you are not happy with your physical appearance, your body structure right at this moment than you will not be happy when you will look the way you think is acceptable.
In past i did had this mindset that when i thought that if i lost some few pounds i will look beautiful. For a year i was afraid to go shopping bcoz i was so much ashamed of my body and i use to think that when i will loose that belly fat then i will become pretty and then i will go shopping and buy so many clothes and i will look good. And to be honest that day never came. Whole year of body shaming myself to look that way I realised that do you know what it's been long enough of hating myself and this is the time to be myself again. I my fat, i am thin or whatever my body looks like i am gonna owe it bcoz it is my body. And now when i look back at myself, the girl who was so so so insecure about herself , especially about her weight and wanted to loose weight I realised that i never had any problem with my weight and body structure, in past i wanted to loose wt. bcoz others wanted me to but i never wanted to, i never felt that there is anything wrong if i had that belly fat, that double chin and those jeans that were no longer fitted me and till this day i have belly fat, double chin nand clothes that no longer fits me but i am happy, i am with peace myself  bcoz unlike last year this time I questioned myself that what i want? Do i really want to change my appearance?
My answer is Naaa, bcoz this time i know that i my worthy of everything and it has nothing to do anything with my appearance.
You just have to owe yourself.