Learning What Real Guys Are like

Lesson 4: Four Simple Heart Opener Words

If only more people knew about the 4 simple words that can get any man to OPEN HIS HEART & reveal his deepest, heart-felt feelings.

So often, relationships are sabotaged because women don’t realize how to approach a man when he’s feeling vulnerable – & men don’t have a clue about how to respond either!

Have you ever CLEARLY been able to see that your man is stressed or upset about something…

… but he totally denies it?

Maybe he’s not acting like himself… or he’s irritable and grumpy…

… but even your kindest & most loving words just seem to make him turn further away?

Have you ever felt like he won’t engage in the emotional side of your relationship? He just clamps his lips shut when all you want is to know how he REALLY feels about you?

Its enough to drive anyone crazy!

These 4 secret words can open a world of intimacy & trust between you

We all know that men & women are vastly different when it comes to communication styles. Guys know it. YOU know it too. The trouble is, we aren’t told what to actually DO or SAY to make the situation better!

To feel happy & joyful & LOVED in a relationship, most women need to feel that their boyfriend, husband, or prospective lover are being truthful, right? You need to feel that sense of connection, an intimacy that comes from sharing personal truths with each other, creating the feeling of having found your ‘soul mate’ or true partner in life.

If you don’t feel that your partner TRUSTS you enough to share his feelings, you’re probably going to feel shut out and hurt. You’re going to feel like he’s hiding something, or that he doesn’t value you enough to tell you the truth about his feelings.

 
Without TRUST & INTIMACY, any relationship is going to crumble.

But as we discussed in Part One, men just aren’t wired to have open hearts, & to easily share their feelings.

Don’t give up on him!

Luckily, there are four special words that can unlock his secret heart, & have him pouring out his true feelings, forging a powerful bond that will take your relationship to a place of incredible strength and joy.

The 4 ‘Heart Opener’ Words to Use And WHY

Now that you understand WHY most men really struggle with opening up, you can see that unless you CAREFULLY & STRATEGICALLY support him, this issue with emotional vulnerability can sabotage the relationship.

The secret words aren’t just to be SAID out loud.

He also needs to FEEL your commitment to these words, before he can open up.

The four magic heart-opener words are…

“I’ve got your back”

In other words, he needs to totally & completely feel SAFE in the idea of sharing his feelings with you. He needs to know, on every level, that you truly “have his back”. No matter what happens or what he admits to, you’re not going to stop loving him. You’re not going to stop respecting him. You’re there to support HIM if he opens up to you.

I want to emphasize that you can’t just SAY THE WORDS “I’ve got your back”. We all know that men are more about actions than words. You need to SHOW him.