Learning What Real Guys Are like

Lesson 9: Show Him You're a Dreamgirl, Not a Placeholder

It happens every single day. It happens out of a clear blue sky. & it happens because of one reason and one reason ONLY:

POWER.

Now, before you get all weirded-out & turned off by that word, just hang on a sec. I know, I know, ‘power’ is kind of an ugly-sounding concept to wrap your head around when it comes to love and relationships.

But the truth is, understanding – & WIELDING – the power you already have within you right now is your most VITAL jump-off point to truly achieving the kind of blissed-out, deeply-connected worshipful love most women spend a lifetime longing for (yet so few actually get to experience.)

POWER is THE KEY to getting the kind of love other women live a LIFETIME longing for.

You know … the kind of love where he doesn’t just say ‘I love you’, but actually shows it.

The kind of love where he does things like ….

Stays up ‘til 3 am rubbing your back & bringing you cold medicine when you have the flu, even though he’s got a 12-hour day tomorrow at the office & a presentation he hasn’t even prepared for yet.

Spontaneously announces your relationship to the world all on his own – updating his relationship status & posting photos of you all over his Facebook with captions like ‘Me & my amazing lady enjoying the sun – how did I ever enjoy weekends before she came along?” & ‘Hands off, guys, THIS one is MINE!!”

Where he takes the day off work to help you move house (even though, as we all know, moving house is what they do in hell.)

Where he overhears you say one time you wished you had more bookshelves in your apartment … & the next day you come home from work to find him squatting on your floor, wearing his adorable painters’ whites, building you bookshelves out of planks & nails with his own two hands.

Where he makes an extra trip back to the store just for you, even though he’s starving hungry & he only just came BACK from there because he forgot your favorite brand of wine & he wants to see you smile.

Where he constantly tells you how beautiful you are first thing in the morning – yup, without makeup, hair all greasy, gross soupy morning breath, & you’re wearing that big ugly egg-stained T-shirt you got from a team-building exercise at work that time.

Where he joyfully comes with you in ALL the parts of your life – not just the ‘fun’ stuff, but (this is key) for the ‘boring’ stuff too – stuff like picking out a new couch, or walking your dog, just because he loves your company THAT much.

Yeah. A REAL relationship. POWER, ladies.

POWER is THE KEY to attracting any man you want like a moth to a (sexy, sexy) flame.

Men are sensing, evaluating, & FEELING your power from the first moment of eye contact.

But…

‘Feeling’ it is not ALL they do.

They’re also USING it to EVALUATE you.

In fact, as far as male romantic psychology goes, I need you to know that men split the world of women into TWO categories:

Placeholders   OR…. Dreamgirls

I think we all know what a placeholder is: a ‘just for now’ girl. Someone to kill time with (& have sex with) until an actual Dreamgirl comes along.