This kissing technique is THE SINGLE most powerful weapon in my bag of tricks. It’s more powerful than a blow job, & more powerful than talking dirty. I use this kiss to remind a guy that I’m a real woman. I’m his woman. Whether I’m aroused & want to make love, or I feel like there’s a distance growing between us, this kiss brings him exactly where I want him.
Here’s how you do it:
Gaze deeply into his eyes.
Touch his face gently. Ideally his temples, but only if it feels natural.
With one of your hands on each side of his face, pull him toward you. If he’s way taller than you, you should probably be sitting by him.
Breathe a slow, hot breath onto one side of his neck, & creep your hot breath up towards his ear.
Then pull your mouth to his.
THIS IS IMPORTANT. **Say something like “I’m here.” Your goal is to pair this phrase & his kiss in his mind. “Come back to me,” also works.
Gently open his lips with your tongue.
Open your mouth widely & tilt your head.
Pull him toward you & press your body against his.
Pull away from him for a moment, & feel him draw in toward you like you’re a magnet.
Lean in again, put your hand on the back of his neck, caress him gently.
Press your open mouth on his, & let your tongue take control, but don’t be sloppy.
After a few moments of this “waltz,” let him take the lead.
From here, you can use this moment to remind him that you’re there to listen to him. You know what to do from here, based on the “temperature” & mood of the room.
Try this on your man sometime when he seems distant. Fair warning: You should deploy this kiss only during calm moments. Using this kiss while children are screaming or cellphones are ringing WILL BACKFIRE & increase tension.
** Don’t say, “Why are you ignoring me?” or “Where did you go?” Phrasings like this position you as needy. It also burdens him with a sense of guilt. “Come back to me” or “I’m here” are gentle, firm reminders that you’re in the present for him.
Ready to help him talk through any problems or thoughts.
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