Aside from having 23 pair of chromosomes and opposable thumbs, men and women are organically different.
Ladies, like I talked about before, YOU need to make the first move if you want him to pursue you, worship you, & make you feel safe & loved forever.
Remember, you need to tap into your man’s primary evolutionary drivers: Fighting, Fleeing, Feeding, Fornicating.
Here’s some quick, easy and fun homework.
Make a list of everything you love about him. Or used to love about him.
Does he love unconditionally?
Is he a good provider?
Is he a good lover?
Is he considerate about certain things?
Is he a kind, patient father?
Go ahead & make a list. Actually take the time to write it out. Leave room to add to the list, because you’ll think of other things later, the more you look for them.
Now, keep an eye out for moments that remind you of why you first fell in love with him. Grab those moments!
“You know, I really appreciate that you’re a good provider. It’s one of the things I love & respect about you & will always love about you.”
Notice the words appreciate & respect, which I talked about earlier. These words are incredibly powerful to the male ego. Try to include “power words like these.”
Here is a ‘fill in the blank template’ if you want some help getting started.
So, for example, that would read…
“I admire how you negotiated with the contractor earlier. That strength is one of the things that made me fall in love with you. It’ll come in handy when we start building our dream home next year.”
“Thank you so much for picking up the kids from school today when I was slammed at work. You’ve always been willing to pick up the slack, & I know I’m lucky to have you. I can’t wait until we retire & the kids go off to college. We’ll have so much time to ourselves.”
If you aren’t used to saying things like this, it may take some practice. Here is a list of some Power Verbs & Power Qualities to get you started.
POWER VERBS
Admire
Love
Respect
Adore
Cherish
Appreciate
POWER QUALITIES
Provider
Parent
Dad
Giver
Lover
THINGS FROM THE PAST
It’s what I’ve always loved the most about you.
What first attracted me to you was…
WHAT YOU PREDICT FOR THE FUTURE
Why I’ll always love you.
What I look forward to the most when I think about our future.
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