Finding yourself

Anchor

"Human beings of great light have no limits, because they are strong. It's time to start living, to smile at every dawn, to set your enormous potential in motion, to weigh anchor and become a collector of stories". - Leo Pavoni.  

All the problems that keep human beings away from happiness are anchored in thought, that thought that can be both dangerous and precious at the same time. During the day, I often wonder where I am going or what my life's journey is. The hope of going with the flow of the sea without managing the reins of your life is an enduring but healthy process. Why? Because you don't focus your attention on the following days, only on getting up and being grateful that it is a new day, each one being different from the previous ones. If we anchor our thoughts to the stages where they belong, one realises that one's life moves forward and does not fear failure. What fails once will not fail again in the future, because it is anchored in its corresponding stage. What is unhealthy? Overthinking past situations by anchoring yourself in different stages of your life, causing the ruins of your thinking. What is necessary is to put things in a broader perspective, to set short deadlines for decisions, to become a person of action, to realise that you cannot control everything, to label negative memories as "thoughts" and feel that you can nip them in the bud with your inner voice.

For many years of my life, I have been in the habit of thinking too much and acting too little, that is, those negative moments I have turned into those thoughts before I go to sleep and drown myself in the dark hole known as anxiety. Sometimes it can be uncontrollable, you feel that no one can help you because the mind is collapsing and the word hope becomes invisible. A few months later, having felt at the bottom of the ocean with a lot of pressure on top of me, I have hit bottom to unearth the word hope and anchor my fears under my feet. The will to go out was becoming a healthy habit, where I could be completely free and always think in colour, not in that black and white colour. Hitting bottom is the beginning of clearing your thoughts and the path to a new life even if you have your own, starting from scratch is a blessing that every human being should cherish like the gift of breathing and feeling the breeze of the wind caressing your skin. It is never too late to drown in a deep sea, feel your feet on the sand and say: I have hit bottom. 

Just as we feel our feet in the sand, we anchor the words to forgive others for past situations, and at the same time, forgive yourself for those nights where the moonlight was the only light you could see. We were born to succeed, not to withstand the pressure of the ocean above you. If we want to love the ocean, let it be by approaching the seashore and looking to the horizon, with the confidence that you are human and live for many reasons. The ocean will always forgive you for everything you have experienced, it knows you because you have been in the deepest depths and it will not help you to get out of the bottom, because your inner strength is extremely powerful to get out of there. In a way, we are afraid to fail, we do not tolerate criticism because our mental health is not stable. Aristotle recommended be delayed on the equivocal aspects of life, because they open up new horizons for us. The Latin word for "anchor" is "sublatis ancoris", which means "articulatory opening". From this I have concluded that it is that inner opening, when we want to come out of the deepest, as we anchor our emotional anchor and open ourselves to feel the smell of new life. A very famous quote from the ancient humans of Rome: "Let your mistake today be your master tomorrow". We cannot always limit ourselves to triumph, it is necessary to fail, to err, in order to reach triumph. The satisfaction one feels when one fails is undoubtedly the anchor of mastery. Mastery is the ability and expertise to teach something. It is not about teaching the world who you are, but about teaching your mind that you will no longer be anchored in the past and that you will err the present and step into the magic of the future.

When I was a child, I felt defeat in my own hands when I made a mistake from which I saw no way out. It's something that may be hard to erase from your mind, but if you look closely at those mistakes, it's the daily novelty. What do I mean by that? If you have erred in your life, you should not misunderstand to avoid the ground of defeat, but appreciate that this newness has decided to knock on the door of your heart with the certainty that you are a warrior and to grow with courage. I will tell a personal anecdote: One day, on my way home from school, I came home in tears because I had made a mistake in front of everyone. I felt very insecure and anything affected me, even a hug would break me to pieces. I needed to find that emotional stability but I didn't know where to start. One night, after crying for many days in a row, I saw the solution in front of my eyes. I stood in front of the mirror, dried my face with a towel and my inner voice said: "Mirrors are those objects where we do not find reflected not the image we have, but the image we fear". That was the lesson I took to this day, that is, I saw myself as a monster created by society's thoughts. I didn't want to see myself with tears in my eyes, but smiles full of hope. The next day, as I stepped into the world, I felt different. I felt the peace of mind that lifted me out of the dark days to see the sun shining. Recognising oneself is the synonym of peace with oneself. We all make life more beautiful just by listening to the birds singing, we feel the beauty of what surrounds us. So, if you have not yet found your way out, look in the mirror with the certainty that there are times when the stepping stone to hope is not only offered to us by the anchor of the ocean, but also by our own will.