Society has been teaching women to be more giving to everyone, to make sacrifices and all.
Mother was married when she was 16 and father was 23. He was the breadwinner in our family. We were told to follow all patriarchal norms. My mother suffered a lot and never failed at hiding it. I could see it in her eyes. She was traumatised, disrespected and beaten up.
She would do everything for that man even when she was feeling sick and he didn't care as long as his needs were met. How heartless.
I'd always ask myself why mum wouldn't report him or complain untill I came to realise it was something normal and complaining about such will get her into more trouble. Though not once was I ever taught that women have right and I had no clue what patriarchy is but my instincts weren't taking it easy. Something deep inside kept telling me what was happening wasn't right at all. I badly wanted to know the real reasons.
I was tired,mentally ,physically, emotionally. I just wanted to end my life at one point and finally have some peace. Not gonna lie I hated him. I wanted to eradicate the thought that women have no rights and that a man can get away with anything . The most bizarre thing I heard then was that only men can speak up and their voice be heard.
After years of dealing with all that trauma that's when I thought to myself that i should speak up and talk to my mum about it.
She broke down. Am sure she didn't want me to see all what was happening but unfortunately we both had no power to prevent anything.
With a queeving voice "we both can't do anything about it" she said
I thought so hard and I was sure there was some light somewhere.
An year later I joined university to study law. The society was totally against it because every young girl got married but I managed to get away from them when I moved to the city.
Right now am fighting patriarchy, gender inequality and other misogynistic notions that create conditions for domestic violence to exist and thrive.
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