Unknown Happen Stance

Chapter 4: The Stories To Tell P3 The Songs of Empathy P2

"Okay, so what's what you've worked out so far, Riven?" asked Timmy.

"I think I know how to say the beginning and end part of it."

"Okay, recite it to me then, and we'll work on explaining her flaws to her in a poetic but simple and sympathetic way. You like that I was a honest guy with Tecna. You have to be honest with her; it's what true boyfriends do. And a goodbye kiss on the cheek wouldn't hurt either, Riven at the very end of this conversation." advised Timmy. "Let's begin our session right now maybe it would help for you to see your words on paper first." He slid a notebook over after Riven.

"Musa, we really need to talk about us there are several things I have to get off my chest that's bothering me about you and it deeply hurts when you don't notice any of the good I do. Today, I failed at protecting you today because I was nervous and anxious around you because I was not able to destress from distress. I feel bitter all the time. I can't talk to you with you without you talking and complaining back at it and it is so upsetting. This isn't something a boyfriend of yours should have to put up with. Right now without your voice this is the only chance you have to hear me out straight without interrupting me and I know this won't be the type of talk you wanted at all but you've got to hear it because I can't keep living the lie that you've made up in your mind about me being able to be a perfect boyfriend because I will never be able to be that perfect boyfriend. No one can be perfect not even me."

"So you said this while you walked to a bench with her in the Alfea Courtyard?" asked Timmy nodded. "And You said this with a straight and sincere voice."
Riven nodded, and said,  "I hope I can, Timmy, it's hard for me to look her in the eyes anymore." there was a whimper much like Lady's in Riven's voice. The dog heard it and came running. For the first time Lady nuzzled herself up to Riven and laid her head on his knees.
Riven patted the dog on and the head and sighed. "Thanks, Lady. I needed that nuzzle."
I can't promise that I have not changed.
I cannot promise that I won't have many different needs.
I can't promise you that I won't hurt your feelings sometimes!
It's the truth and truth will sting half the time,
Through half of our whole lives.
Love requires compromise,
But You REFUSE To Compromise
With Me.

So all I can do is repeat this truth,
The truth you won't recognize is inside of you.
I can't promise you that I will never be erratic.
I cannot promise you that our faults will never show.
I cannot promise you that I will always be strong.

BUT —
I have tried to support you, even though you keep pushing me away,
I have shared my thoughts and feelings with you, even though you're not listening at all.
I gave you plenty of freedom to be yourself even when it means you being mean to me.
I promise that I do understand what you're doing for a living!
I promised that I would be completely honest with you.
After all, what's a partner without honesty?
This is why I must walk out the door on you.

I'll always root for you in this heart of mine,
But romance partners, we can be no more.
I worked hard to build up my dignity and sanity,
Only for you to tear it all down again.
I can't take any of it anymore, Musa.
Find another boy or change your heart!

I'm so sorry this is the only way I could truly tell you.
I tried to make it known clear as the light of Solaria's two suns, but even then you didn't, couldn't even pick it up." Riven continued on with heartbreak in his voice tears racing too. His voice cracked as the words were hard for him to get out because he knew they were painful and were going to sting Musa but he had to say it right here, right now she needed to know this truth. "And you never let me get a word in edgewise, Musa.
But the truth is our relationship has only been what you want it to be.
That makes it one sided.
And Love requires compromise
The compromise that Bloom & Sky
and Stella & Brandon have had built up for the last few years, Musicnote.
I don't have that with you.
You're too angry and too upset with me.
And you're so idealistically trapped that you're very blind to your own faults.
You've refused to compromise with me
And I have to be honest with you, because you were my girlfriend
And I don't want this same thing to keep on happening to you.
And true boyfriends are honest with the truth they hate saying.
I did support you, helped you achieve several goals and never once got a sufficient thank you.
You made it clear that there's no way I can really be your hero.
You don't find me strong enough or perfect enough for you.
You know who I have always been,
But I'm starting to not recognize you anymore, Musa.
I have to leave you behind and get you out of my sight and mind.
I'm afraid you're way too passive aggressive for me the way you are.
Choose another boy or change your heart.
I have to walk out the door on you.
But I will always be rooting for you in this heart of mine;
I just can't take being your boyfriend anymore.
I did always love you even when you were being so mean to me, and I can never ever stop loving you, even if you move on to someone else, Goodbye, Musa,
Sincerely, Riven."

"This is really good Riven, I think you've got it under control." Timmy praised him. "Sky said he's waiting for you at the gymnasium. Said you needed combat to destress from your destress when you do talk to Musa remember to show your emotions pouring out of your heart through your voice that will drive the point and hurt you felt home. I'm gonna talk to Saladdin about having Roxy train Sky's dog to be a therapy dog for all three schools everyone's gonna need it after all the turmoil we've been through this year."
"Excellent idea, Timmy you should go do that." said Riven agreeing.
"Hey, Riven I heard you talking about what is going on with Musa, I'm glad you're getting ready to tell it straight while you have the chance from what I heard not that was I was prying you brought up and found all the right signs you lost interest in Musa over the years. If you ever want to practice with another team my own team is open to it." Jordenn invited him to come visit.
"What are the right sights Guys lose interest in women, Jordenn can you clarify for me?"
"Certainly, Riven." agreed Jordenn he brought a small book not part of the Red Fountain library that Aisha brought back from Bloom's Gardenia library Bloom had bought it for her.

"The top 3 signs a guy has lost interest in a girl. 1. He doesn't think he can please her.
Explanation: Oftentimes, a man loses interest when the woman he loves complains too much: especially about him.
Many women complain as an attempt to communicate or connect. Sometimes they complain to gain a sense of control. (This side fact reason doesn't apply to Musa's relationship with Riven often because they feel out of control in another area of their lives.)

However, to a man, this sort of complaining comes across as his own personal failure to please her or to make her happy. And if nothing he does is good enough for her, then why should he keep trying?

Men lose interest when they feel defeated and trapped in a no-win situation.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with speaking your truth and voicing your concerns. However, some women do it in a way that is focused on the problem rather than on what they actually wanted. (100% Musa's romantic role is a constant complainer towards Riven.)

2. He doesn't feel safe being himself around her.
A man may lose interest because he doesn't feel safe being vulnerable around her.
This is often caused by high expectations, judgmental behavior, or feeling forced to act a certain way that betrays who he naturally is. Does Musa have High Expectations? Yes she does. She has way too High Expectations for you. She is an idealistic dreamer, Riven and you're more of a Realist."

When she takes this stance with a man, interacting with her will feel as inviting as sticking his nose into a wasp's nest. Probably not something many, aside from the genuinely masochistic, would readily volunteer to do.

3. He has Other Things Going On His Life that Take Top Priorities right now over the Girl.
Another reason that men lose interest is that they have other priorities in their lives that need to be taken care of. Things come up all the time. She should be able and likely to sympathize with this dilemma from any number of examples from her own life in the last few weeks or months.

Deadlines at work, family drama, and tax returns often fall into this category. The way men work is that their attention goes toward what is the "highest priority" thing in their lives. And for better or worse, she will not always be at the top of that list.

When he is going through a difficult time, his focus will naturally go toward the most pressing thing he has to deal with.

I understand it is difficult balancing time with girlfriends and the hard pressed rigorous training here at Red Fountain, Riven and Musa doesn't seem interested in Red Fountain at all." Jordenn said.
"The last time she came to watch was when Sky invited the entire Winx Club as a group at the beginnish of their Year 2. Musa only comes if the whole group goes. The other five girls came as real individuals!" Riven sniffled as he admitted with a happy smile as he made a new friend with Jordenn. "Thanks, Jordenn now, I am confident I can get this done and that it is the real right thing to do too also. I will take you up on your offer too."

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