Bleeding Poetry

Handling Rejection

I know rejection sucks, whether you’re the one shutting someone else down or the other way round, but we all agree that there’s a right and totally wrong way to react to it. Men have been taught since the earliest of times to protect their masculinity so when they're rejected, they associate it with their masculinity. When that is threatened by anything, they tend to fight for it as a way to re-prove their manliness. Everytime you hurt a male ego by rejecting their proposal, some of them start constructing stories of how cheap a person you are. They don't have that self confidence to accept the rejection and get angry and agressive. I was sure I wasn't the only girl who has faced this, so after bringing it up with my classmates and close girlfriends, I quickly realized this sort of thing happens often with other women, whether they just aren’t feeling it, or aren’t interested in a guy. I'm not talking about already being in relationship and breaking up, I'm talking about rejecting proposal of a guy. I've seen my friend's name being scammed. I've seen rejected guys spreading fake rumours about a girl, distributing their numbers to random guys, cyber bullying them, being called names and cursed because a random guy couldn't take the rejection positively. I've seen the rumours spread like forest fire about the girl's character being bad and people started judging her, not just the guy who has been rejected but even some girls start judging other girls based on the rumours. This may be a joke for them, may help them satisfy their ego but the trauma a girl has to go through, may affect their mental health. Understand that a person cannot force herself/himself. Be it a guy or a girl, if they don't want to be with you, take the rejection positively. Do not move about bitching, cursing or spreading fake rumours about the person rejecting you. It may make their image bad temporarily but it'll make you a bad person permanently. //✨

©Anusmita Mukherjee

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