It's just another day in the trenches. By that, I mean the mean streets of New Delhi. You will witness an unusual amount of unemployed young/middle-aged /older men loitering around the city. They are busy urinating at every corner, spitting on the streets, adjusting their balls, stalking women, raping girls, jerking off on crowded buses, and watching porn on their phones. How do they pay their bills and ever get anything done?
These men often don't know how to behave with women. They respect their mothers and view them as asexual beings. They picture their sisters as helpless, brainless liabilities that need to be protected and married off because somehow, the entire honor of the family lies locked in their vaginas. If she sleeps with you, the girlfriend is a whore; if she doesn't, she's a prude. Every other woman is game and is begging for it, he believes, and when she says "no", his fragile ego can't take it. He attacks her because he thinks no one is better than him- that's what his mother told him all along, and we all know that you can't improve upon perfection. How else would he feel like a man? Besides, in his defense, no one took the time to teach him that 'no means no'. What an alien concept! His wife is his personal property and should be covered at all times because, once again, his honor is attached to her body. She is meant to be a vehicle for childbirth and probably will never know what an orgasm feels like. He doesn't have any intention of helping with the raising of his children because his father never did it. He worships the Goddess and seeks blessings at the temple but at the same time is a dickhead to all the women in his life.
Who is to blame for this creature? I am afraid we are. We as a society are so busy telling our girls to mellow down, blend in, don't rock the boat. But no one taught the boys that they must listen to what the woman had to say, help with the chores, respect her feelings and that her opinion could matter.
Ideally, he should move out of his parent's house and stop comparing his wife to his mother. She was not raised to strap on an apron and cater to your every whim and fancy. The next time you ask her, "Didn't your mother teach you anything?" be prepared to hear back from her, "didn't yours?" She will eventually be willing to leave you if you harbour such expectations and say, "...if you love your mommy so much, then you should have married her!" Please refrain from abusing her family members during an argument because it will come to bite you in the ass. Don't be that guy; no one likes him.
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#I'm Not Sorry
ChickLitThese are a series of short essays on topics ranging from gender equality, education, self-love and various other aspects that have a direct impact on our daily lives. This book, as the title suggest, is about being true to yourself and others, whil...
