Self love isn't selfish
Life is full of hardships. Full of pain and sorrow. Full of challenges that we need to overcome. Full of the things we didn't thought we will need for us to grow.
One of the things that most people forget is self-love. Love is one of the reasons why we exist. And mostly, people tend to give love to other people but forgets to include themselves.
While the pandemic still goes on, a lot of realizations came to me. One of those, is that self-love is also a need. In order for us to grow, we should water ourselves with love.
Some people may think that saying "I need to love myself more", is an excuse to be selfish and prioritize ourselves. But then, self-love doesn't mean being selfish.
There are many different perspectives of different people in this world, but let me share mine.
I was inspired by someone, I saw every little detail that's changing in her. I asked her, "What's your secret?"
Suddenly, she told me "It's just self-love. I learned to love myself more and it was a good feeling that helped me become who I really am right now."
After hearing what she said, thoughts are flooding inside my head. Loving yourself gives a lot more benefit than pouring everything you have to other people.
Love is not like a product. That when people come and buy, or the store gives for free, it suddenly becomes sold-out. They said love is one of the unlimited resources in life.
But is it?
I guess without having self-love as your foundation, you might lose yourself in the process of loving other people.
After knowing what self-love is, it makes me happier. All the burdens I have in my shoulder became lighter than the usual weight it has. I can laugh freely, without always thinking about what others think.
Maybe, other people's perspective or opinion really matters and helps us decide. But sometimes, it hinders us to decide freely on what we want or need to do. It becomes a barrier towards our genuine happiness.
So we shouldn't ignore self-love.
We should know how important self-love is.
We should plan to focus on ourselves and learn to love ourselves more. So that if we pour our love for others, we will not lose ourselves because we know how important it is to love ourself.
We will know the importance of self-love.
Taking care of ourselves.
Checking what's happening on ourselves.
Not losing ourselves just for other people.
Neglecting our needs and wants for the other people's sake.
And choosing ourselves before anyone else.
How can we help, love, and choose other people if we can't do it to ourselves? We will just struggle and be in pain, and we might lose both if we can't fix the problem.
So choose to love yourself. Choose to let yourself grow in love before pouring out to someone, too.
