This part is dedicated to AndreyNaira and ReinCelleReyes4. Belated happy birthday to the both of you! Thanks for always pushing me to go further.
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Low maintenance friends
This quarantine gave us a lot of time to think about things. It gave us time to know ourselves more. But how can you do that when there's a barrier that is blocking you to do so? And worst, that barrier is your friends.
There are two types of friends. The high maintenance friends and the low maintenance friends.
High maintenance friends requires you to put a lot of efforts for them but less for yourself. High maintenance means that they require a lot of attention, time, effort or money. You need to give them attention and all because they expect you to do so.
High maintenance friends always expect something from you. They are always overthinking about your friendship specially, when it seems like you don't have enough time for them.
Here are some example characteristics or scenarios that a high maintenance friend shows:
They get jealous easily.
- Whenever you have a new friend, they easily get jealous because they want you for them only. They want your time and attention for them alone. But there are also times that we can't avoid jealousy, we really can't. Imagine, your bestfriend will have another buddy. Imagine his/her attention will be on someone else.
They always need your care and attention.
- As a friend, we always check up on our friends. We always want to be sure of their mental health, or if they have problems. But sometimes, we can't even check ourselves so how can we handle them? But not everyone can understand that, like some high maintenance friends.
High maintenance friends clings always. They always want to keep in touch. They want to know every detail of your life that sometimes invades your privacy. This kind of friendship needs to have a lot of understanding. It needs to grow and mature. Because as you keep growing, your world keeps growing too. Your world does not revolve on just a small group of friends anymire. But you should still know who you're real friends are.
While having a low maintenance friend is completely opposite. It always reminds me of "with or without conversation, you're still my friend", which is true.
Communication helps a lot for a great friendship. We can say that it is a great foundation for a friendship that is still growing. Most of the friendship starts with a great conversation. But to know if you have a good foundation, you must overcome a lot of struggles.
There are a lot of struggles in a relationship like, lack of communication, misunderstandings, anxiety and some short-comings. But we are all humans. It is normal to experience these kinds of things. The most important thing is that you learn from it.
Having a low maintenance friend helps a lot specially, to those people that wants to take a break from everything. It's nice how some people take this quarantine as a breathe of fresh air. They use quarantine to meditate and think about important things.
It is not bad to have time for yourself. Please remember that it's okay to be selfish sometimes. You did great, and you always do. Now, take some rest and give yourself peace of mind.
It's all on you if you want to think about yourself only even in just a short time, just escape. Or you can inform your friends that you just have to breathe and you'll be fine. If they are a good friend, they will understand.
You also have a life to take care of. You have some struggles and problems that you have to face alone in order to be better each day. It's okay if you have to deal with it alone, without them knowing.
Just take your time. You're still in the process. And low maintenance friends will understand, no questions asked. They are silently cheering you up like how you silently stood up to fight for your own battles.
It's okay not to be okay. It's okay to cry, but make sure to wipe your tears and stand up after to fight again.
You have great friends. They will patiently wait for you to be okay. They will try their best not to ask a lot but they will check on you without pressure that you have to be okay. They will wait without whining and doubting if you are still friends.
Imagine how great is that right? Having someone to completely understand you without uttering a word. It's good to know that you have someone to lean on anytime, just like how you want them to lean on to you too.
It's good to know that you don't have to be anxious and overthink if you're still good with each other. How nice is that right? So if you have a low maintenance friend, you are lucky. You are blessed.
You should be thankful to them. For always being there. For always being patient with you. For always thinking about you soecially, you're mental health.
Now, thank them. Express your gratitude to them. You can mention them here, put it in the comment section.
Remember that a great friendship cannot be measured. You just know in your heart that you are friends. That you can lean on to each other. Just give them respect and have a proper communication.
Distance will never be a hindrance for a great friendship. Sometimes, growing means being apart. Even though you will part ways with your friends, the most important thing is that you're still growing just like how your friendship gets stronger each day.
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To my dearest friends,
You know who you are. I'm very lucky to have you all. I am forever blessed because the Lord gave me great friends that always try to understand me. Thanks for being patient with me. I may be busy sometimes, remember that you're always in my heart and mind. I love you.
