How I feel about my bestfriend

What I like about you?

What do I like about you? Well, I like you. And only you. No, I will never get bored of you. No, I will never lie to you. No, I will never lose feelings for you. Well, I hope. No, I will never hurt you as someone from the past did. No, I will not leave you for someone else to be my best friend. I understand these things happened before, but that doesn't mean it will happen to me. If we spend most of our friendship being scared, it'll end because we might push ourselves too far away. If things change, we will deal with it, but until then, I am your best friend. I love you because you make me laugh every day. After all, you let me be me. I love you for saying please and thank you. And sometime text me good morning and good night. You are interesting and you are different and I like that. Today I thought about you and I started to miss you. I love you for who you are inside and out. You are strong and brave and kind. You always know what to say when I am down. You're making me nervous by being so weird. But your weirdness is what I like about you. - Jaclyn Moriarty You are crazy silly, funny, goofy, amazing cool awesome that's what I like about you. I hope you know that every time I tell you to get home safe, stay warm, and have a good day or good night, what I'm saying is I love you. I love you so damn much that it is starting to steal the meaning of other words. I still haven't figured out how to sit across from you, and not be madly in love with everything you do. - William C. Hannan I don't know what it is about you. Maybe it's the way nothing else matters when we're talking, or how you make me smile more than anyone else has. It could be the way you say the right thing at exactly the right time. But whatever it is, I just want you to know that it means everything to me. You will never be my MCM it stands for Man Crush Monday on social media. I won't call you my bae. If you don't want me to if we ever be more than best friends. I won't tag you in every photo about relationship goals. I won't put you through the torture of creative photos of us forming hearts with our hands. I won't plaster your face on my profile or post pictures of what you look like when you're concentrating hard. I will take plenty of pictures of you, both when you are sexy as hell and when you're acting like a complete dork. I will save our conversations and screenshot them for days when life gets me down. I will stare at you when you're not looking I will write about you constantly, I will keep everything you have ever given me. I will tell you how much you mean to me, face to face, while we laugh over something that will never be shared on social media. I won't have a '' crush '' on you one day a week. I will freaking love you every single day even when I  want to punch you in the face. What we have is ours. It belongs to us and we don't have to put on a show for the masses. What's mine is mine, and I'm not sharing you with anyone. - Christy Aldridge Why do I like you? I don't have an answer for that, but I guess it's just the vibes you give me, the smiles you put on my face, the laughs I get from talking to you, and just the fact that you can make think of you even if we aren't talking at that moment. I honestly cannot say there's an answer to that, but I will say that you are the reason I am happy every day. You're so kind, Matthew. That's what I like about you. I sit here in my room and I think about how much I love you your eyes, your hair, your voice, your smile, your body, your mind, your soul, your laugh, your heart all the things you say all the things you do everything from the very tips of your toes to the very top of your head I am in love with every aspect of you even the parts that you have grown to hate or might hate. - K.L. If only you knew the way I look at you. When you have your back to me. I smile wider than the sky because I love you endlessly. I guess. I just really like you. That's why I love writing. Once you get the words down on paper, in print, they start to make sense. It's like you don't know what you think until it dribbles from your brain down your arm and into your hand and out through your fingers and shows up on the computer screen, and you read it and realize: That's true; I believe that. - Ellen Wittlinger I like you. I don't ask you to reciprocate the feeling. All I ask you is to respect what I feel. Because falling for you was never something I planned. I believe that when two people are in love with each other, you can see it in their eyes. The way they look at each other, the way their stare at each other, it's all there. Their eyes are full of admiration, attraction, of undying feelings for each other. Their eyes twinkle, and their eyes are smiling. Even if they didn't say a word about it, there's this invisible thread connecting them two. - Word Porn When I judge a man for marriage, I mentally take away his looks, his money, his cars, and everything materialistic and then asks myself what he has to offer. Is he honest?  Is he loyal? Is he caring and kind? Is he loving and trustworthy? Because let me tell you, while his good looks and money will make you weak in the knees now, at 3 am when your child is crying to be fed. And your eyes are heavy and your body is weak from postpartum, it will not be how he looks or all that he owns that will matter. It will be the compassion in his heart, the mercy in his nature, and the love for you in his soul that will push him out of bed to quickly feed the child and tell you '' don't worry honey, I got this.'' That's what I envision long-term. Little moments like these differentiate an ordinary man from an extraordinary husband and father. And that is all I need.'' I love you... I love you because you put effort into me. I love you because nobody has ever given me the love that you have given me and you are the only one who can love me this way. I love you because you always make me feel like I am worth something. I love you because you have a nurturing nature and care for me. I love you because you can always make me smile when I have almost forgotten how to. I love you because you have a huge and honest heart. I love you and every little detail about you. I love you because of your past and what you want in your future. I love you because you are simply you. You know me so well, inside out. Your deep acceptance of me is what I love most about you. I love you, not only for what you are but for what I'm when I am with you. - Roy Croft For every day. I miss you. For every hour. I need you. Forever minute, I feel you. For every second. I want you. Forever. I love you. This reminds me of you. One of the best compliments I ever got was '' You know what I like about you> You're smart enough to be scared. So many guys come on cocky, they don't want to go over their stuff, and they don't want to do a pre-interview. You're always smart enough to be worried til the last minute.'' - Scott Raab  You see me. I feel like when people look at me, they see different things depending on who they are. They see a family member or an employee a potential customer or a face in a crowd. But whenever you are seeing me. And that is what I love most about you. You are the only person who looks past every mask I wear and looks directly at me. It doesn't matter how much I try to hide, you always see the real me beneath everything else just as I see the real you. And that is probably what I love about you most because that is what I know I will never find in anybody else. I like you very much just as you are. - Bridget Jones's Diary So let's say that '' theoretically, '' I like you. And '' theoretically, '' even though it sounds moronically cliche and overused, you give me butterflies. Let's add that all in theory of course you may be one of the most wonderful people I have ever met. And hypothetically, my heart beats ten times faster when I see you. Do you think that you would supposedly and in themes theoretical sense feel the same way? I promise no matter how hard it gets, no matter how much we argue, I will never leave you. I will wish everything for you. No one compares to you. I love you. The truth is I like you. A lot you make me happy. You make me laugh. You're smart. You're different. You're a little crazy, and awkward, and your smile alone can make my day. I'm thinking of you, that's all I do, all the time. You're always the first and the last thing on this heart of mine. No matter where I go, or what I do, I'm thinking of you. - Dierks Bentley When you find that one that's right for you, you feel like they were put there for you, and you never want to be apart. - Joe Manganiello Let me be your 6 pm dinner date, your all-night cuddles, your 2 am giggles, your 3 am sleepy kisses, your 4 am pillow as you sleep, your forever and always. Please don't ask me what I like about you cause it's every little thing you do. When you're in a relationship if you just break it down to regular terms, people are attracted to something, and that's what you should just be, and for me, it's very simple if I meet a guy and I say, this is what I like about you. Just continue. Every day. - Marilyn Manson There are many things that I would like to say to you. But I don't know how. - Oasis But I love you. I'm totally and completely in love with you, and I don't care if you think it's too late. I'm telling you anyway. I love you with every beat of my heart. - Armaan I am in love with your smile, your voice, your body, your laugh, your eyes. But most of all, I am in love with you. I swear I couldn't love you more than I do right now, and yet I know I will tomorrow. Dear Matthew, your eyes attract me the most. No, it's your charming smile which attracts me the most. No, it's your charming smile which attracts me the most. When you cringe at small things, I love to see your face.  When you get angry, I love to see your face. Your blushing face attracts me the most. It is hard to stay mad at you because you are generally very sweet and charming. You always lighting up someone's day it seems to come naturally to you. However you are stubborn so am I, and your desire to merely give hits to what you can drive a person crazy or mad. I wouldn't change you. You are a sweet taker with a charming sense of humor, you may not always think so but you know how to turn it on; you give good, sound advice sometimes a little too much so do I you always give me tough love when I need to hear it. You are courageous and you will defend yourself and others; in the way you love them with all your heart and soul. You and I require a lot of attention because we want to feel like we are wanted by someone; you are shy when you want to be and more sensitive just like me. You are very determined in life. You know what you want and need. You will love your partner and wants to be with her, you will commit. You always say what's on your mind like me we like fire with fire because we both think we are both right even when we might be wrong. I had heard that having sex with a Leo is a unique experience. Correction having sex with a Leo is a mind-blowing experience. - Unknown Now I want to have sex with a Leo man Leo has the second highest sex drive of the zodiac but they won't be with just anyone. Leos are super confident. If they want to have sex with you, they will. Leo, they are great at analyzing. They already figured you out in the first ten minutes of the meeting. Not much gets past A Leo. That is so true I can figure anyone out in less than ten minutes. Here are some Leo sex tips stroke and massage their back, it entices them and lets them see your passion and excitement they like it a little rough. Leos can be very dramatic and sometimes you just have to laugh at how they are making unimportant things seems important. However, don't mock them or belittle their problems because that will quickly irritate them. Make sure you understand them before making any jokes. I can be dramatic and take things the wrong way and say things I don't mean.  Lean man and woman are sexy without ever trying, he or she always looks good and has a strong alluring pull over men and woman, which they know and use to their advantage. They are very confident and dominant in the bedroom but also crave to be dominated by their lover. The sign of Leo rules the back, so teasing, rubbing, or kissing this area will set their fire just right. Their favorite position is anything oral, so you must ensure you have mastered this act of pleasure. Unlike most signs, Leo will always return the sexual favor. And they will do it just right! However, they do want more than just sex. Leo yearns for love and friendship and without that, anything sexual won't be too promising. They demand loyalty and respect and they will give you the same back, perhaps even better. This is one of the few signs that will never cheat. Share similar views and ideas with them. Do not constantly complain or get into emotionally heavy topics. Allow them to take the lead. Praise and compliment them. Looj, act and be positive. Make them a tiny bit jealous. Making it seem like there are people interested in you boosts their passion and will make them fight harder to win your love and show that you are theirs. Don't take this too far though. Be energetic and outgoing. Show them how much they mean to you. Don't criticize them. Show that you can party and have fun with them but asl chill and relax with them. Give them endless love and attention. Cheer them up when they are going through a rough time. Be willing to experiment and try new things. Be devoted and affectionate. Be playful and make them laugh. Avoid bossing them around and making decisions for them. Remind them of how great you think they are. Show that you adore and respect them. Be silly and have a good sense of humor, don't be so serious. Don't make them look or feel stupid. Allow them the freedom to do as they, don't tie them down. Be spontaneous and creative. Go out to lots of places with them. Don't act just like a lover, act like a friend too. Don't humiliate them in any way. I always wanted to try BDSM I think I had already explained what it means. Well BDSM is a variety of often erotic practices or roleplaying involving bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and other related interpersonal dynamics. Given the wide range of practices, some of which may be engaged in by people who do not consider themselves to be practicing BDSM, inclusion in the BDSM community or subculture often is said to depend on self-identification and shared experience. Men and Women can wear collars with attached chains. Aspects B&D, B/D, or BD means bondage and discipline, D&S, D/S, or Ds means dominance and submission, S&M, S/M, or SM means sadism and masochism. Roles top/dominant means the partner who performs or controls the activity bottom/submissive means the partner who receives or is controlled with means switches between roles. The initialism BDSM is first recorded in a Usenet post in 1991, and is interpreted as a combination of the abbreviations B/D (Bondage and Discipline), B/s (Dominance and submission), and S/M (Sadism and Masochism), BDSM now used as a catch-all phrase covering a wide range of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships, and distinct subcultures. BDSM communities generally welcome anyone with a non-normative streak who identifies with the community; this may include cross-dressers, body modification enthusiasts animal roleplayers, rubber fetishists, and others. Activities and relationships in BDSM are often characterized by the participants taking on roles that are complementary and involve inequality of power; thus, the idea of informed consent of both partners is essential. The terms submissive and dominant are often used to distinguish these roles: the dominant partner (don't) takes psychological control over the submissive (''sub''). The terms top and bottom are also used; the top is the instigator of an action while the bottom is the receiver of an action while the bottom is the receiver of the action. The two sets of terms are subtly different: for example, someone may choose to act as bottom to another person, by being whipped, purely recreationally, without any implication of being psychologically dominated, and submissives may be ordered to massage their dominant partners. Although the bottom carries out the action and the top receives it, they have not necessarily switched roles. The abbreviations sub and dom are frequently used instead of submissive and dominant. Sometimes the female-specific terms mistress, domme, and dominatrix are used to describe a dominant woman, instead of the sometimes gender-neutral term dom. Individuals who change between the top. dominant and bottom/ submissive roles whether from relationship to relationship or within a given relationship are called switches. The precise definition of roles and self-identification is a common subject of debate among BDSM participants. BDSM is an umbrella term for certain kinds of erotic behavior between consenting adults, encompassing various subcultures. Terms for roles vary widely among the subcultures. Top and dominant are widely used for those partners in the relationship or activity who are, respectively, physically active or controlling participants. Bottom and submissive are widely used for those partners in the relationship or activity who are, respectively, physically receptive or controlled participants. The interaction between tops and bottoms where physical or mental control of the bottom is surrendered to the top is sometimes known as ''power exchange'', whether in the context of an encounter or a relationship. BDSM actions can often take place during a specific period agreed to by both parties, referred to as ''play'', a ''scene'', or a ''session''. Participants usually derive pleasure from this, even though practices such as inflicting pain or humiliation or being restrained would be unpleasant under other circumstances. Explicit sexual activity, such as sexual penetration, may occur with a session but is not essential. For legal reasons, such explicit sexual interaction is seen only rarely in public play spaces or place spaces and is sometimes banned by the rules of a party or place space. Whether it is a public ''playspace'' ranging from a party at an established community dungeon to a hosted play ''zone'' at a nightclub or social event the parameters of allowance can vary. Some have a policy of panties/nipple stickers for women (underwear for men) and some allow full nudity with explicit sexual acts. The fundamental principles for the exercise of BDSM require that it be performed with the informed consent of all parties. Since the 1980s, many practitioners and organizations have adopted the motto (originally from the statement of purpose of GMSMA a gay SM activist organization) safe, sane, and consensual (SSC), which means that everything is based on safe activities, which all participants are of sufficiently sound mind to consent, and they all participants do consent. Mutual consent makes a clear legal and ethical distinction between BDSM and such crimes as sexual assault and domestic violence. Flogging of the bare buttocks as seen in the New York street fair is a common practice in BDSM. Some BDSM practitioners prefer a code of behavior that differs from SSC. Described as "risk-aware consensual kink" (RACK), this code shows a preference for a style in which the individual responsibility of the involved parties is emphasized more strongly, with each participant being responsible for their well-being. Advocates of RACK argue that SSC can hamper discussion of risk because no activity is truly ''safe'', and that discussion of even low-risk possibilities is necessary for truly informed consent. They further argue that setting a discrete line between ''safe'' and ''not-safe'' activities ideologically denies consenting adults the right to evaluate risks versus rewards for themselves; that some adults will be drawn to certain activities regardless of the risk; and that BDSM plays particularly higher-risk play or edgeplay should be treated with the same regard as extreme sports, with both respect and the demand that practitioners educate themselves and practice the higher-risk activities to decrease risk. RACK may be seen as focusing primarily on awareness and informed consent, rather than accepted safe practices. Consent is the most important criterion. The consent and compliance for a sadomasochistic situation can be granted only by people who can judge the potential results. For their consent, they must have relevant information (the extent to which the scene will go, potential risks, if a safeword will be used, what that is, and so on) at hand and the necessary capacity to judge. The resulting consent and understanding are occasionally summarized in a written "contract" which is an agreement of what can and cannot take place. BDSM play is usually structured so that the consenting partner can withdraw their consent at any point during a scene, for example, by using a safeword that was agreed on in advance. Use of the agreed safeword ( or occasionally a ''safe symbol" such as dropping a ball or ringing a bell, especially when speech is restricted) is seen by some as an explicit withdrawal of consent. Failure to honor a safeword is considered serious misconduct and could constitute a crime, depending on the relevant law, since the bottom or top has explicitly revoked their consent to any actions that follow the use of the safeword. For other scenes, particularly in established relationships, a safeword may be agreed to signify a warning ("this is getting too intense") rather than explicit withdrawal of consent; and a few choose not to use a safeword at all. Terminology and subtypes a male bondage rigger demonstrates to the audience how to do rope bondage at the 2015 BoundCon event in Germany. The bondage technique used here is box ite, a basic form of arm and breast bondage. The initialism BDSM stands for. Bondage and discipline (B&D) Dominance and submission (D&s) Sadomasochism ( or S&M) These terms replaced sadomasochism, as they more broadly cover BDSM activities and focus on submissive roles instead of psychological pain. The model is only an attempt at phenomenological differentiation. Individual tastes and preferences in the area of human sexuality may overlap among these areas. Under the initialism BDSM, these psychological and physiological facets are also included male dominance male submission and female dominance female submission. The term bondage describes the practice of physical restraint. Bondage is usually, but not always, a sexual practice. While bondage is a very popular variation within the larger field of BDSM, it is nevertheless sometimes differentiated from the rest of this field. A 2015 study of over 1,000 Canadians showed that about half of all men held fantasies of bondage, and almost half of all women did as well. In a strict sense, bondage means binding the partner by tying their appendages together; for example, by the use of handcuffs or ropes, or by lashing their arms to an object. Bondage can also be achieved by spreading the appendages and fastening them with chains or ropes to a St. Andrew's cross or spreader bars. The term discipline describes psychological restraining, with the use of rules and punishment to control; behavior. Punishment can be pain caused physically (such as caning), humiliation caused psychologically ( such as a public flagellation) or loss of freedom caused physically ( for example, chaining the submissive partner to the foot of a bed). Another aspect is the structured training of the bottom. Dominance and submission (also known as D&s, Ds, or D/s) is a set of behaviors, customs, and rituals relating to the giving and accepting of control of one individual over another in an erotic or lifestyle context. It explores the more mental aspect of BDSM. This is also the case in many relationships not considering themselves as sadomasochistic; it is considered to be a part of BDSM if it is practiced purposefully. The range of its characteristics is thereby wide. Strappado with rope and a spreader bar. This practice has a distinct effect of immobilization and pain. Often, BDSM contracts are set out in writing to record the formal consent of the parties to the power exchange, stating their common vision of the relationship dynamic. The purpose of this kind of agreement is primarily to encourage discussion and negotiation in advance and then to document that understanding for the benefit of all parties. Such documents have not been recognized as being legally binding, nor are they intended to be. These agreements are binding in the sense that the parties expect that the negotiated rules will be followed. Often other friends and community members may witness the signing of such a document in a ceremony, and so parties violating their agreement can result in loss of face, respect, or status with their friends in the community. In general, as compared to conventional relationships, BDSM participants go to greater lengths to negotiate the important aspects of their relationship in advance, and to contribute significant effort toward learning about and following safe practices. In D/s, the dominant is at the top and the submissive is at the bottom. In S/M, the sadist is usually the top and the masochist the bottom, but these roles are frequently more complicated or jumbled (as in the case of being dominant, masochists may arrange for their submissive to carry out S/M activities on them). As in B/D, the declaration of the top/bottom may be required, though sadomasochists may also play without power exchange at all, with both partners equally in control of the play. Etymology the term sadomasochism is derived from the words sadism and masochism. These terms differ somewhat from the same terms used in psychology since those require that sadism or masochism cause significant distress or involve non-consenting partners. Sadomasochism refers to the aspects of BDSM surrounding the exchange of physical or emotional pain. Sadism describes sexual pleasure derived from inflicting pain, degradation, and humiliation on another person or causing another person to suffer. On the other hand, the masochist enjoys being hurt, humiliated, or suffering in the consensual scenario. Sadomasochistic scenes sometimes reach a level that appears more extreme or cruel than other forms of BDSM for example, when a masochist is brought to tears or is severely bruised and is occasionally unwelcome at BDSM events or parties. Sadomasochism does not imply enjoyment through causing or receiving pain in other situations, for example, accidental injury, or medical procedures. The terms sadism and masochism are derived from the names of the Marquis de Sade and Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, based on the content of the authors' works. Although the names of de Sade and Sacher-Masoch are attached to the terms sadism and masochism respectively, the scenes described in de Sade's works do not meet modern BDSM standards of informed consent. BDSM is solely based on consensual activities and based on its system and laws. The concepts presented by de Sade are not by the BDSM culture, even though they are sadistic. In 1843, the Ruthenian physician Heinrich Kaan published Psychopathia Sexualis (Psychopathy of Sex), a writing in which he converts the sinful conceptions of Christianity into medical diagnoses. With his work, the originally theological terms perversion, aberration, and deviation because part of the scientific terminology for the first time. The German psychiatrist Richard von Krafft-Ebing introduced the terms sadism and masochism to the medical community in his work Neue Forschungen auf dem Gebiet der Psychopathia sexualis (New research in the area of Psychopathy of Sex) in 1890. In 1905, Sigmund Freud described sadism and masochism in his Three Essays on the Theory of Sexuality as diseases developing from an incorrect development of the child psyche and laid the groundwork for the scientific perspective on the subject in the following decades. This led to the first time use of the compound term sadomasochism (German sadomasochismus) by the Viennese psychoanalytic Isidor Isaak Sadger in their work, "Uber den sadomasochistischen Komplex" ("Regarding the sadomasochistic complex") in 1913. In the later 20th century, BDSM activists protested against these conceptual models, as they were derived from the philosophies of two singular historical figures. Both Freud and Krafft-Ebing were psychiatrists; their observations on sadism and masochism were dependent on psychiatric patients, and their models were built on the assumption of psychopathology. BDSM activists argue that it is illogical to attribute human behavioral phenomena as complex as sadism and masochism to the "inventions" of two historic individuals. Advocates of BDSM have sought to distinguish themselves from widely held motions of antiquated psychiatric theory by the adoption of the term BDSM as a distinction from the now common usage of those psychological terms, abbreviated as S&M. Behavioral and physiological aspects of BDSM is commonly misconceived to be all about pain". BDSM is commonly mistaken as being "all about pain". Freud was confounded by the complexity and counterintuitiveness of practitioners doing things that are self-destructive and painful. Rather than pain, BDSM practitioners are primarily concerned with power, humiliation, and pleasure. The aspects of D/s and B/D may not include physical suffering at all, but include the sensations experienced by different emotions of the mind. Of the three categories of BDSM, only sadomasochism specifically requires pain, but this is typically a means to an end, as a vehicle for feelings of humiliation, dominance, etc. In psychology, this aspect becomes a deviant behavior once the act of inflicting or experiencing pain becomes a substitute for or the main source of sexual pleasure. In its most extreme, the preoccupation on this kind of pleasure can lead participants to view humans as insensate means of sexual gratification. Dominance and submission of power are an entirely different experiences, and are not always psychologically associated with physical pain. Many BDSM activities involve no pain or humiliation, but just the exchange of power and control. During the activities, the participants may feel endorphin effects comparable to a "runner's high" and the afterglow of orgasm. The corresponding trance-like mental state is also called subspace, for the submissive, and domspace, for the dominant. Some use body stress to describe this physiological sensation. The experience of algolagia is important, but is not the only motivation for many BDSM practitioners. The philosopher Edmund Burke called the sensation of pleasure from pain "sublime". Couples engaging in consensual BDSM tend to show hormonal changes that indicate decreases in stress and increases in emotional bonding. There is an array of BDSM practitioners who take part in sessions in which they do not receive any personal gratification. They enter such situations solely intending to allow their partners to indulge their own needs or fetishes. Professional dominants do this in exchange for money, but non-professionals do it for the sake of their partners. In some BDSM sessions, the top exposes the bottom to a range of sensual experiences, such as pinching; b biting; scratching with fingernails; erotic spanking; erotic electrostimulation; and the use of crops, whips, liquid wax, ice cubes, and Wartenberg wheels. Fixation by handcuffs, ropes, or chains may occur. The repertoire of possible "toys" is limited only by the imagination of both partners. To some extent, everyday items, such as clothespins, wooden spoons, and plastic wrap, are used in sex play. It is commonly considered that a pleasurable BDSM experience during a session depends on a strong guy on the top's competence and experience and the bottom's physical and mental state. Trust and sexual arousal help the partners enter a shared mindset. Types of play here are the following of some types of BDSM play Animal roleplay, Bondage (BDSM), Breast torture, Cock and ball torture, Diaper play, Edgeplay, Erotic electrostimulation, Erotic sexual denial, Spanking, Flogging, Human furniture, Japanese bondage, Medical play, Omorashi & bathroom use control, Paraphilic infantilism, Play piercing, Predicament bondage, Pussy torture, Salirophilia, Sexual roleplay, Suspension, Tickle torture, Urolagnia, Wax play. Safety besides safe sex BDSM sessions often requires a wider array of safety precautions than vanilla sex (sexual behavior without BDSM elements). To ensure consent related to BDSM activity, pre-play negotiations are commonplace, especially among partners who do not know each other very well. In practice, pick-up scenes at clubs or parties may sometimes be low in negotiation (much as pick-up sex from singles bars may not involve much negotiation or disclosure). These negotiations concern the interests and fantasies of each partner and establish a framework for both acceptable and unacceptable activities. This kind of discussion is a typical "unique selling proposition" of BDSM sessions and is quite commonplace. Additionally, safewords are often arranged to provide for an immediate stop of any activity if any participant should so desire. Safewords are words or phrases that are called out when things are either not going as planned or have crossed a threshold one cannot handle. They are something both parties can remember and recognize and are, by definition, not words commonly used playfully during any kind of scene. Words such as n o, stop, and don't, are often inappropriate as a safeword if the roleplaying aspect includes the illusion of non-consent. The traffic light system (TLS) is the most commonly used set of safewords. Red- meaning stop immediately and check the status of your partner Yellow- means slow down, be careful Green - means I'm all good, we can start. If used it's normally uttered by everyone involved before the scene can start. At most clubs and group-organized BDSM parties and events, dungeon monitors (DMs) provide an additional safety net for the people playing there, ensuring that house rules are followed and safewords respected. BDSM participants are expected to understand practical safety aspects, such as the potential for harm to body parts. Contusion or scarring of the skin can be a concern. Using crops, whips, or floggers, the top's fine motor skills and anatomical knowledge can make the difference between a satisfying session for the bottom and a highly unpleasant experience that may even entail severe physical harm.  The very broad range of BDSM "toys" and physical and psychological control techniques often requires a far-reaching knowledge of details related to the requirements of the individual session, such as anatomy, physics, and psychology. Despite these risks, BDSM activities usually result in far less severe injuries than sports like boxing and football, and BDSM practitioners do not visit emergency rooms any more often than the general population. It is necessary to be able to identify each person's psychological "squicks' or triggers in advance to avoid them. Such losses of emotional balance due to sensory or emotional overload are a fairly commonly discussed issue. It is important to follow the participant's reactions empathetically and continue or stop accordingly. For some players, sparking "freakouts" or deliberately using triggers may be the desired outcome. Safewords are one way for BDSM practices to protect both parties. However, partners should be aware of each other's psychological states and behaviors to prevent instances where the "freakouts" prevent the use of safewords. After any BDSM activities, the participants must go through sexual aftercare, to process and calm down from the activity. After the sessions, participants can need aftercare because their bodies experienced trauma and they need to mentally come out of the role play. Social aspects top and bottom at one end of the spectrum are those who are indifferent to, or even reject physical stimulation. At the other end of the spectrum are bottoms who enjoy discipline and erotic humiliation but are not willing to be subordinate to the person who applies it. The bottom is frequently the partner who specifies the basic conditions of the session and gives instructions, directly or indirectly, in the negotiation, while the top often respects this guidance. Other bottoms, often called "barats", try to incur punishment from their tops by provoking them or "misbehaving". Nevertheless, a purist "school" exists within the BDSM community, which regards such "topping from the bottom" as rude or even incompatible with the standards of BDSM relations. Types of relationships play BDSM practitioners sometimes regard the practice of BDSM in their sex life as roleplaying and so often use the terms play and playing to describe activities where in their roles. Play of this sort for a specified period is often called a session, and the contents and the circumstances of play are often referred to as the scene. It is also common in personal relationships to use the term kink play for BDSM activities, or more specific terms for the type of activity. The relationships can be of varied types. Long-term early writings on BDSM both by the academic and BDSM community spoke little of long-term relationships with some in the gay leather community suggesting short-term play relationships to be the only feasible relationship models and recommending people to get married and "play" with BDSM of marriage. In recent times though writers of BDSM and sites for BDSM have been more focused on long-term relationships. A 2003 study, the first to look at these relationships, fully demonstrated that "quality long-term functioning relationships" exist among practitioners of BDSM, with either sex being the top or bottom (the study was based on 17 heterosexual couples). Respondents in the study expressed their BDSM orientation to be built into who they are, but considered exploring their BDSM interests an ongoing task, and showed flexibility and adaptability to match their interests with their partners. The "perfect match" where both in the relationship shared the same tastes and desires was rare, and most relationships required both partners to take up or put away some of their desires. The BDSM activities that the couple partook in varied in sexual to nonsexual significance for the partners who reported doing certain BDSM activities for "couple bonding, stress release, and spiritual quests". The most reported issue amongst respondents was not finding enough time to be in a role with most adopting a lifestyle wherein both partners maintain their dominant or submissive role throughout the day. Amongst the respondents, it was typically the bottoms who wanted to play harder, and be more restricted into their roles when there was a difference in desire to play in the relationship. The author of the study, Bert Cutler, speculated that tops may be less often in the mood tp play due to the increased demand for responsibility on their part; being aware of the safety of the situation and prepared to remove the bottom from a dangerous scenario, being conscious of the desires and limits of the bottom, and so on. The author of the study stressed that successful long-term BDSM relationships came after "early and thorough disclosure" from both parties of their BDSM interests. Many of those engaged in long-term BDSM relationships learned their skills larger BDSM organizations and communities. There was a lot of discussion by the respondents on the amount of control the top possessed in the relationships but "noi discussion of being better, or smarter, or of more value" than the bottom. Couples were generally of the same mind of whether or not they were generally of the same mind of whether or not they were in an ongoing relationship, but in such cases, the bottom was not locked up constantly, but that their role in the context of the relationship was always present, even when the top was doing non-dominant activities such as household chores, or the bottom being in a more dominant position. In. its conclusion the stidu states the respondents valued themselves, their partners, and their relationships. All couples expressed considerable goodwill toward their partners. The power exchange between the cohorts appears to be serving purposes beyond any sexual satisfaction, including experiencing a sense of being taken care of. and bonding with a partner. The study further goes on to list three aspects that made the successful relationships work; early disclosure of interests and continued transparency, a commitment to personal growth, and the use of the dominant/submissive roles as a tool to maintain the relationship. In closing remarks, the author of the study theorizes that due to the serious potential for harm, couples in BDSM relationships develop increased communication that may be higher than in mainstream relationships. Professional services a professional dominatrix or professional dominant, often referred to within the culture as a pro-dome(me), often services encompassing the range of bondage, discipline, and dominance in exchange for money. The term dominatrix is little-used within the non-professional BDSM scene. A non-professional dominant woman is more commonly referred to simply as a domme, dominant or femdom ( short for female dominance). Professional submissives ("pro-subs"), although far more rare, do exist. A professional submissive consents to their client's dominant behavior within negotiated limits, and often works within a professional dungeon. Most of the people who work as subs normally have tendencies towards such activities, especially when sadomasochism is involved. Males also work as professional "tops" in BDSM, and are called masters or doms. However, it is much rarer to find a male in this profession. Scenes in BDSM, a "scene" is the stage or setting where BDSM, activity takes place, as well as the activity itself. The physical place where a BDSM activity takes place is usually called a dungeon, though some prefer dramatic terms, including playspace or club. A BDSM activity can, but need not, involve sexual activity or sexual roleplay. A characteristic of many BDSM relationships is the power exchange from the bottom to the dominant partner, and bondage features prominently in BDSM scenes and sexual roleplay. "The scene" (including use of the definite article the) is also used in the BDSM community to refer to the BDSM community as a whole. Thus someone who is on "the scene", and prepared to play in public, might take part in "a scene" at a public play party. A scene can take place in private between two or more people and can involve a domestic arrangement, such as servitude or a casual or committed lifestyle master/slave relationship. BDSM elements involve settings of slave training or punishment for breaches of instructions. A scene can also take place in a club, where the play can be viewed by others. When a scene takes place in a public setting, it may be because the participants enjoy being watched by others, or because of the equipment available, or because having third parties present adds safety for play partners who have only recently met. Etiquette most standard social etiquette rules still apply when at a BDSM event, such as  not intimately touching someone you do not know, not touching someone else's belongings (including toys), and abiding by dress codes. Many events open to the public also have rules addressing alcohol consumption, recreational drugs, cell phones, and photography. A specific scene takes place within the general conventions and etiquette of BDSM, such as requirements for mutual consent and agreement as to the limits of any BDSM activity. This agreement can be incorporated into a formal contract. In addition, most clubs have additional rules which regulate how onlookers may interact with the actual participants in a scene. As is common in BDSM, these are founded on the catchprase "safe, sane, and consensual". Parties and clubs BDSM play parties are events in which BDSM practitioners and other similarly interested people meet in order to communicate, share experiences and knowledge, and to "play" in an erotic atmosphere. BDSM parties show similarities to ones in the dark culture, being based on a more or less strictly enforced dress code; often clothing made of latex, leather or vinyl/PVC, lycra and so on, emphasizing the body's shape and the primary and secondary sexual characteristics. The requirement for such dress codes differ. While some events have more, others have a policy in order to create a m ore coherent atmosphere and to prevent outsiders from taking  part. At these parties, BDSM can be publicly performed on a stage, or more privately in separate "dungeons". A reason for the relatively fast spread of this kind of event is the opportunity to use a wide range of "playing equipment", which in most apartments or houses is unavailable. Slings, St. Andrew's crosses ( or similar restranining constructs), spanking benches, and punishing supports or cages are often made available. The problem of noise disturbance is also lessened at these events, while in the home setting many BDSM activities can be limited by this factor. In addition, such parties offer both exhibitionists and voyeurs a forum to indulge their inclinations without social criticism. Sexual intercourse is not permitted within most public BDSM play spaces or not often in others, because it is not the emphasis of this kind of play. In order to ensure the maximum safety and comfort for the participants, certain standards of behavior have evolved; these include aspects of courtesy, privacy, respect and safewords. Today BDSM parties are taking place in most of the larger cities in the Western world. This scene appears particularly on the Internet, in publications, and in meetings such as at fetish clubs (like Torture Garden), SM parties, gatherings called munches, and erotic fairs like Venus Berlin. The annual Folsom Street Fair held in San Francisco is the world's largest BDSM event. It has its the world's largest BDSM event. It has its roots in the gay leather movement. The weekend-long festivities include a wide range of sadomasochistic erotica in a public clothing optional space between 8th and 13th streets with nightly parties associated with the organization.  There are also conventions such as  Living in Leather and Black Rose. If you want to learn more about BDSM this is the website https://en.m.wilipedia.org/wiki/BDSM Yes I do have feeling for cowboy but I am not even close to being ready to tell him how I feel. And its not the right time to tell him anyway he have a girlfriend at the moment. I am happy for him I just hope she won't use him, I just want him to be happy even when its not with me. See you in part 16 on how I feel about my bestfriend.