How I feel about my bestfriend

The Psychology of Unrequited Love and Emotional Attachment

Unrequited love is a universal experience that can lead to a whirlwind of emotions, from exhilaration to profound sadness. It often involves intense feelings for someone who may not reciprocate them. This emotional state can trigger physiological responses such as an increased heart rate, commonly expressed as you make my heartbeat fast which is associated with the excitement and anxiety of being near the object of one's affection (Aron et al., 2005). The longing to be someone and the desire for their attention can manifest in various ways. The yearning to maintain eye contact or look into your eyes forever is not just a poetic expression but also a psychological phenomenon where prolonged eye contact can increase feelings of attraction (Kellerman et al., 1989). Similarly, humor and caring nature, described as traits of the beloved, are qualities that often foster deeper bonds and attraction (Bressler & Balshine, 2006). The phrase you make me want to jump your bones is a colloquial way of expressing sexual attraction, which is a natural component of romantic love. Sexual dreams and constant thoughts about the person indicate a strong infatuation, possibly tipping into obsessive tendencies, which can occur when one is deeply enamored (Fisher, 2004). Acknowledging the presence of the other's significant other complicates these feelings, introducing moral dilemmas and emotional turmoil. The complexity of loving someone who is already in a relationship can lead to a range of conflicting emotions and ethical considerations (Baumeister & Wotman, 1992). Feeling wanted and loved, and being able to be oneself around another person, are fundamental human needs. These experiences contribute to our sense of identity and well-being (Ryan & Deci, 2000). When these needs are met by someone we are attracted to, it can intensify our feelings towards them. The experience of falling in love, especially when it is unrequited, can be both exhilarating and painful. It encompasses a spectrum of emotions and desires, from the joy of connection to the agony of longing. Understanding the psychological underpinnings of these feelings can provide insight into our own behaviors and help us navigate the complex terrain of human relationships.