Zac&fatima unseen

Listening and hearing

Dr. Reid: Good afternoon Fatima, how are you
Fatima: I'm good, thank you
Dr.Reid: Just you today?
Fatima: yeah I don't think he's coming
Dr.Reid: give him time, we talked about this last week. He feels abandoned by you, he has to go through this to see his fault.
Fatima: I don't know how much more I can take. He's so angry all the time. He thinks just because we are not having sex that I'm sleeping with other men.
Dr.Reid: Fatima what was the first thing you told me last session before we got down to any root causes?
Fatima: that I want to be with Zac.
Dr.Reid: Yes and I told you that, that would require work. And in turn you said you were up for the task.
Has that changed? Fatima took a deep breath and
Before Fatima spoke she broke down and started crying.
Fatima: I am trying... he thinks he's the only person angry and hurting? I'm MAD, I'm ANGRY, I'm FUCKING HURT!!!!
Just as Fatima was screaming her truth Zac walked in.
Zac: so why don't you say that to me? You keep everything bottled in like you don't care, if this is how you feel then why don't you say it to me Fatima?

Dr.Reid: Fatima tell him how you feel he's a adult he can handle the truth.!
Fatima wipes her tears away and takes a deep breath. Zac walks all the way in the office and sits down next to Fatima. He turns her face towards him and is looking dead in her eyes. With tears falling down her face she begins to speak.

Fatima:I didn't think we would get this far. I liked you, your swag, your game. I wasn't looking for a man, just looking to have fun and help a cute guy with potential. Then we had sex. The best sex I ever had. It's like you knew every inch of my body. What I yearned for. What my body needed. Your sole purpose was to please me. I've never had a man take on that daunting task. You started taking care of my needs not just physically but mentally. I started falling in love with you. But I still didn't trust you with the truth. The truth is I've been waiting for the other shoe to drop since we started. You were too good to be true. You loved on me hard and intensely . Even then I was still waiting. So when you told me Karen was pregnant. I didn't trip because I was waiting on shit to happen. Our love couldn't be perfect. When Heather told you about Jace, I was like  ok. Shit , I was just waiting for more shit to happen. Being with Ian made me realize that you don't put all your eggs in one basket. I just learned to not get my hopes up. Having low expectations saves you from getting hurt and let down. That's why I'm so independent and I don't depend on you for stuff. Then I got pregnant with Ava and you proposed to me. I accepted and for the first time in my life I was really scared, because that meant I had to depend on someone else's decision making. Leadership. That I would have to relinquish control and compromise and submit. I did that with Ian gave him 100% of me. Submission was a given and he was nowhere close to the way you fucked my mind . Then he broke me, and I almost lost myself. It took me a long time to put me back together. So the truth is Zac. Our love scares me. If I give you 100% of me and follow you blindly and you fuck up and break my heart I won't be able to come back from that. Your flirtatious and friendly and emotional as fuck. What if you act on those emotions.? I am scare shitless.

Dr.Reid : Zac do you understand what she's saying. ?
She's scare of y'all love. I told Fatima last week. That passion can also be described as toxicity. You both are passionate people that sometimes triggers toxic emotions. Fatima tell Zac how you feel about his issues with women particularly with his mother.

Fatima: Zac I feel like you carry the emotional baggage of your mother with you. The few times I've met her have never been pleasant and your codependency on her is unhealthy. We have a daughter and your relationship with women is crazy.

Zac: So I'm the only one who needs help?

Dr: Reid : Zac don't get defensive. Last week Fatima and I dealt with a slew of her issues. You heard her spill her heart out about her insecurities. She has a ton of work to do if y'all plan to walk down the aisle.
Zac you have the floor, you can comment or ask questions about anything Fatima has said.

Zac: When you say your scare of our love, are you saying you think I'm going to hurt you?

Fatima: I'm saying that I love you so deeply that if you did something to hurt me or our family I'm scared I wouldn't come back from it.

Zac: I wouldn't do that Fatima. I love you so bad it hurts. The thought of you not being with me I can't even imagine.

Fatima: talk to me about your anger with your mother.

Zac: Fatima I don't want to talk about my mom, you know that.

Dr. Reid: Zac don't shut down. Do you want Fatima to be your wife?

Zac: of course I do.

D.Reid: Do you want your family?

Zac: What kind of question is that, obviously I want my family.

Fatima: THEN ACT LIKE IT!

Dr: Reid: What I'm going to purpose is aggressive martial and family therapy. Where I meet with both of you individually once a week and then together once a week. It will be intense and uncomfortable and I'm not going to lie, it's going to be hard. But if you both really want this relationship, it's necessary.

So my question to you both , Fatima, Zac  do you want this relationship and family?
Fatima: Yes I do
Zac: Yes
Dr: Reid: Then let's get to work.