First and perhaps, a priori, the logical inquiry: "and since when does betrayal cure anything and what good, such harm can it bring to those 'affected' by it?!" (betrayal).
In the short term, you may not see its "benefits", but in the medium term, it will bring its "compensations!"
First of all, passion, which for a long time, lovers have mistaken for love and fortunately have already begun to notice the great difference, brings only restlessness! Fear of losing! Horror... And so on, when time goes by and it turns into engagement and marriage, everyone can see how much all that " wish" meant!
All that insistent and persistent desire... it cools down a little, when the first or second child is born... Not that children and sons aren't wonderful, no! However, Vinícius (2) contradicted at the end for the better what seemed to be worse at the beginning ("children, better not to have them, but how do you know it if you don't have to have?") and Gibran Khalil Gibran (1), in his famous book THE PROPHET, stated there that not even children belong to their parents: "Your children are not your children, they are the sons and daughters of the longing for life, of itself it comes through you, but not of you, and though they live with you, they do not belong to you!"
Necessarily, according to this last thinker, no one owns anything or anyone and this is true, especially for spouses and boyfriends and lovers!
By the way, don't take my point of view as a rule, after all "each one of us is a universe..." Therefore, each one will have there, their different perception, through concepts, about life, passion, football team or political party. But, for that portion not so favored by luck and lacking an early evaluation, of the one, for example, who made a hasty decision and "fell off the horse", I can say that: "falling off the horse is very uncomfortable..." I mean, miscalculations are unforgivable when it comes to dealing with the things of the feeling, with the surprises of the heart!
A man or a woman who has, let's say, a very " fervent" character (I read this in a book, I thought it was beautiful: THE WHY OF LIFE! Léon Denis), tends to rush when he should back down and want to take control (of the relationship), when they could let things flow... Let fate take care . Automatically, the feeling of possession, when it surfaces, definitely puts everything at risk...
Would I be ready to start a "new love", a new passion and do everything differently?!
Of course not, but because of the suffering endured and the betrayal felt, I know at least how I should not act in certain situations and that is enough!
Do I blame the object of the betrayal? The reasons? And so on.
Don't today!
It was not what I thought and wished for in the first weeks of disappointment and in the first months of trying to overcome it. But, as he said, in other words: "if the patient does not succumb and die of the great evil, if he survives, he will take to his real world, the experience will try to do things differently!"
Furthermore, even Science explains it, Psychology, Religion?! That all the harm you wish on others return back to yourself and as at this "championship level", I can think better... I'd rather love than hate!
Just stop and reflect... Just stop and thinking!
- (1) Gibran Khalil Gibran – also known as Khalil Gibran, was an essayist, prose writer, poet, lecturer and painter of Lebanese origin, also considered a philosopher, although he himself rejected that title, and some having described him as a liberal. Born: January 6, 1883, Bsharri, Lebanon; Death: April 10, 1931, St. Vincent's Hospital; Pieces: Lazarus and his beloved; Education: Académie Julian, Josiah Quincy School, Collège de la Sagesse.
-(2) Marcus Vinícius da Cruz de Mello Moraes, better known as Vinicius de Moraes, was a Brazilian poet, playwright, journalist, diplomat, singer, and songwriter. An essentially lyrical poet, which would earn him the nickname "Little Poet", attributed to him by Tom Jobim, he was noted for his sonnets. Born: October 19, 1913, Gávea, Rio de Janeiro. Died: July 9, 1980, Rio de Janeiro, Rio de Janeiro Spouse: Gilda de Queirós Mattoso (from 1978 to 1980). Sons : Suzana de Moraes, Pedro de Moraes, Georgiana de Moraes, Maria de Moraes, Luciana de Moraes. Parents: Clodoaldo Pereira da Silva Moraes, Lídia Cruz Moraes;
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