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the baby shower

****Duduzane Buthelezi ****

I have been instructed by Courtney to take my wife shopping after our doctor's appointment because they are doing a little baby shower for her. She obviously doesn't have friends but my acquantances, colleagues , family and hers too , have bought gifts. Our parents have landed so they can to attend. The guys and I haven't planned something yet because I want to rest and I don't think its necessary, they bought her bridal gifts that we haven't unwrapped and there's really no need for the baby gifts. Our honeymoon has been postponed so we can go through this pregnancy and plan our new lives together.

Sex with her scares me , our doctor adviced us to do it but man , it feels like im hurting her and poking the baby.My wife isn't as comfortable as she used to be in her skin , she doesn't push me off or turn me down but she doesn't react in the same way so no sex for us , even when she turns me on and I burn for her. Mpilo and Sonini have been asking me about baby names and trying to cloud my judgement with their wierd names. Courtney gave me two names that sounded strange coming from her mouth , I kind of like them but I don't know , its too early to pen down names.

****Siyanda Buthelezi ****

'Who is having a party today?" I ask my handsome loving husband and he replies by raising and dropping his shoulders. 'You're awfully quite ...did I  do something ?" I ask as I massage his left ear with my palm and he shakes his head and keeps his eyes on the road. I don't know what's going on but im not getting a cold shoulder from him , 'misa i moto-Duduzane ngiya khuluma!"
'What's wrong ?"
'Uhh...whats?...what's wrong? You take me to the mall after our doctors appointment and you go mute on me! Ngithi ngiya khuluma nawe uyangi ziba! Ngithi ngathi uyangi ziba! If you don't want to talk to me its fine , I will get off right now , without your help and you can go home or wherever angithi you don't care and love us -"
'Siyanda ? Can a man not keep quite anymore ?angini thandi?"
'Misa i moto , you want to keep qui- who are all these people?"
'Can we go inside?"
'Oh soo you suddenly want me to go inside?, angiyi" I say folding my hands and he hops out of our car to come open my door. I'm angry but the minute he bends over to kiss me , all that anger dissolves into something and I want to poke his dimple.

He holds out his hand to help me get out of the car , hugs me from behind and walks with me , kissing my shoulder , my forehead , and my crown. Once we are inside Courtney peels me away from him and takes me upstairs because she thinks my outfit isn't good enough for today.  'Why are the curtains closed?" I ask as I eye the closed curtains that hide the sliding door that leads to the outdoor area suspiciously . ' and why is it quite? Uphi umpilo? You even turned the tv-"
'Areye Sii , lets get you in a dress then I'll spill the beans". I change into a white spagetti strap dress that touches my ankles and fits like a glove   and we head downstairs.

She pulls the curtains open as I sit on the couch switching on the tv and people shout 'suprise!" Which scares the timbers out of me , making me cry. Everyone is here , my cousin , my parents , people I don't know and some that I have seen in passing. There seems to be a theme because the guys and some girls are wearing blue while others are wearing pink. 'Do you like it ?" Sonini asks as she pulls me into a hug. 'Courtney and I , with the help of our men and yours pulled it off ' Sonini says .

As I step into the patio I see pink and blue balloons  , pink and blue sweets and cereals . Theres a few stands that serve a few of my cravings and the pool area has been covered so people can place their gifts and my oh my , we are not going to spend a cent on baby essentials. ' Aww Mtanami!" My mother inlaw says as she softly cups my head before placing a kiss on my forehead ,' how are you?I hired a photographer and a videographer so they can make CDs phela I want us to show babyMthembu how gorgeous her mother looked all the time" she says , 'no one buys Cds anymore Ma" My husband says and she swats him playfully. Theres a sitting area by the grass and instead of chairs and tables , theres a white blanket and  small crates with cushions on both sides. The only chair here is mine , and even then its a couch that can comfortably accomodate three thick women.

****Duduzane Buthelezi ****

We didn't want to host a gender reveal and then a baby shower but Courtney and Sonini insisted that we have one of the two so here we are , and then my dad said we were rich lazy bastards - more so me and not my wife , he wouldn't call her that- and so he called the family doctor for our childs gender and planned a gender reveal so again here it is. The boring thing about these things is that the guys , my friends ,declined their invites and sent their wives with gifts  so it's just me and my brothers and father hanging around in the kitchen while they play wierd games out there in the sun .

When I put my empty beer bottle on the table my mothers walk in holding my wife on both hands and tell us , that there is a suprise for us upstairs. Mpilo says he is going to fetch meat which is his way of declining and Senzo nods but picks up his phone and heads outside so I have to go upstairs , great. The suprise is my guest bedroom being turned into a nursery with the walls painted in pink and blue strips and a white cot , two giant bean bags on the other side of the room , separated by a table and under the window is a bookshelve that's already stacked by books. Siyanda's mother stuffed the closet with baby clothes and blankets and diapers. Its beautiful and Im grateful and happy and I hug them and tell them I love them. Siyanda's over the moon , smilling and hugging us all , its beautiful .

****Siyanda Buthelezi ****

After our big suprise we went back downstairs for a suprise gender reveal. I didn't want it because I want to rest , I have what Courtney calls post-wedding-fatigue , I really didn't want anything but here we are , a gender reveal and a baby shower. Im trying not to think about how grateful I am to have such a family because I've been crying today and its tiring. My father-in-love called us to stand infront of the couch I was lying on next to Courtney and my Cousin and then asked the men to push it off and pick up the board. The board is erected and on it are the words 'boy or girl?" Written in gold cursive font.

Mpilo brings a ball and tells my man to kick it on the count if three. Sonini hands him a loudspeaker and everyone starts counting.  When he kicks the ball it burst and a cloud of pink powder forms and we scream our lungs out . He hugs me and picks me up slowly and then runs around the outdoor area screaming Yess outloud  . We are having a baby girl!!