"Narcissists and others like them desire to see themselves as good people.
They need to see themselves as a victim and as a good person because their current self-image can't handle otherwise.
Moreover, admitting that they did wrong is something they see as a failure or giving up control, and that's something abusers will never do.
What we see when abusers refuse to see themselves as bad people is a clash between a personality disorder, a need for control, and the cycle of abuse.
So, what happens to people who need to protect their fragile minds from the horrible truth of who they are?
They get delusional or they pretend to get delusional in hopes they can get you to believe that you're in the wrong, which will let them feel at peace with the sins they committed."
"...you should never hope an abuser will see his wrongs for what they are in the long term.
They know what they're doing is wrong but the fact is that they don't care enough or don't allow themselves to process what they did in a way that will make them change.
This is also why you shouldn't try to change them or force them to see what they did.
If you're with an abuser, your best bet is to leave and disengage with them the moment you notice a warning sign — and it's better to leave late than never."
Source:
https://www.yourtango.com/heartbreak/real-reason-abusers-never-apologize
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