From Singapore to the World: A Journey of Lesbian Love Across The Globe

Chapter 5: Kathy - The One I Thought Was The One

It was August 18, 2021. I arrived at Loof 30 minutes early, heart pounding with excitement and nerves. I tried to act calm, but inside, anticipation hummed. When she walked in, right on time, the world seemed to slow. My breath caught—this is it. She didn't know it, but in that moment, I was quietly celebrating. She was everything I had wanted in terms of physical attraction.

Within 30 minutes of conversation, it hit me. She's the one. It wasn't some grand epiphany, more like a quiet certainty that settled over me. Everything about her—her energy, her simplicity, her values—aligned with the future I had imagined for myself.

Kathy was from Germany, and she'd worked at the same company in London for 10 years before moving to Singapore. That kind of loyalty struck me in a world where people jumped from job to job, city to city. I admired it. There was something deeply grounding about her steadiness.

She'd lived in the chaos of London's nightlife for years, yet never touched drugs. It wasn't about being puritanical; it was about knowing herself, staying true to who she was. I respected her for that.

No tattoos. Minimalism. She wasn't into brands or the need to display status symbols. She didn't need to prove her worth with things; she lived it quietly. She shared that she rarely invited people into her home—only those who truly mattered. Her vulnerability peeked through when she mentioned her last relationship had ended because her ex moved overseas. I could see she wasn't someone who opened up easily.

Then came the moment that sealed it. She was a lesbian—not bisexual. It wasn't about labels; it was about clarity. I appreciated knowing that she was sure of herself and what she wanted. Sitting across from her, I felt like I had found someone I could build something with. But of course, I kept these thoughts to myself. I didn't want to ruin what could be.