My Journey Through Self Love

Chapter 17 - Limiting Belief 5 - I Can't Become My Ideal Self

Limiting Belief: I believe becoming my ideal self is impossible because I'm always gonna be faced with some type of obstacle, both internally and externally.

For a while I had this ideal version of myself that I wanted to be. I wanted to be confident and secure. I wanted high self esteem. I wanted to be more social and energized about life. I wanted to have my life together. And I wanted to be free and independent. But in reality, I was depressed with low self esteem, and I felt like I had to fake confidence or socializing in order to make it through the day. Because I was so far off from the ideal version of myself that I wanted to be, it seemed like I was never going to become that person. I wanted to already be fully healed and successful in my career. I wanted to have it all figured out. But I would never get there.

Flipping the Script: I CAN become my ideal self, despite obstacles, because I can overcome every obstacle I encounter through perseverance, learning, and growth.

I have to realize that putting pressure on myself to be confident and secure isn't going to help me. If anything, it just reinforces all the ways that I'm "wrong." I need to first understand that there's NOTHING wrong with who I am and that I don't have to be this perfect person right away. Building confidence and self esteem takes time. Healing from emotional wounds takes time. And it takes a while to establish my life in a way that allows me to be independent.

Even though these things take time, that doesn't mean they are impossible to achieve. I just have to be patient with my growth and development. I will face obstacles that will make it harder to personally develop, improve my confidence, and achieve the success I strive for, but through affirmation and learning self love, I can go through things with perseverance. I can comfort myself through moments of stress and doubt, and when I'm ready to move forward, I can keep striving for the ideal life I envision for myself.

Conclusion: I CAN achieve the ideal life I envision for myself, despite the obstacles that may come my way. Even though it takes time to personally develop and achieve a better life, there's never really a destination I need to reach, as I'm always going to be evolving and becoming a better version of myself. I just have to be patient and realize that I'm already BECOMING.