The Label Maker

BLOG SIX: THE MEAN GIRL

You never had to do anything to her. If there's one thing she finds off about you, even ½ a thing, you are screwed. She'll go out of her way to talk to you. And when I say talk, I mean she will tease you. Se will eventually break you down so much to the point where you won't even bother retaliating or fighting back. But why? Why does she have to be so mean/ Well, I'll tell you why. She's insecure about herself her home life, something. Don't start to feel sorry for her. Remember, she's been making you feel like crap for years. She's made you cry. She's made you angry and insecure. It's not your fault she's like that. It's not your fault for being picked on . Maybe you blame yourself for doing something wrong. Don't ever, never blame yourself. You did nothing wrong.

She picks out the new people. She picks out the "weakest" link. Most likely you aren't the weakest link. And even if you are, you probably have a very headstrong, old, and outgoing friend who has your back. And if not, then over time I guarantee you will snap. After everything she's said to you, said about you, and done to you, you have every right to call her out. She's almost always friends with the Queen Bee and if she isn't, well, she most definitely wants her crown. There is always a rivalry somewhere. When she doesn't have the crown, she's picking up other people to worship her and bow down to her. Her tactic is fear. If you can't make people love you, make them fear you. Make them hate you. They know you better this way. She's all everybody will talk about. Not out of love though, but out of fear. Only her small group of friends (she she has approved of) are by her side. She's had the friends for years. They either love her, the attention that comes with her or they hate her and just just too scared to say anything because they have seen what she is capable of.

No one stands up to her. They know better than to do such a thing. If you stand up to her, it's only you. No one will join you. It's you versus her and the rest of them. They attack you all at once. I know they will. I've seen it. I've experienced it and yet, I've never done anything to stop it. I know what you're thinking. I'm just as bad as the bully if I don't stop the bullying. But then the same could be said for teachers. They always say they won't tolerate violence, vandalism, bullying, any of it. But yet, as it goes on, they do nothing to stop it. It's as if they treat it as a joke.

The mean girl never has a sudden change in heart. She's as cold as ice in below freezing weather. If she's nice to you, if she tries to help you, even give you "good" advice, don't take it. In the long on, she's only going to embarrass you and hurt you. Never trust a word she says. She's only trying to get under your skin. Don't sink down to her level. Do that even for a single moment and you are just as bad as her. If you ignore her, and nicely accept what she has to say, it'll hurt and anger her more than it ever has to you. She lives to make people hurt. Seeing someone act so calm around her will make her go insane. She may be a nice person. Miraculously, maybe she changed. But even if she did, it wouldn't mean a thing. She was once your bully. She tormented you and made you feel like complete crap for years. I could never be true friends with such a person. Maybe you'll forgive her, but you'll never forget. And here's the thing. As nice as she may have become, as different as she may be... She remembers everything she did to you too.