Toxic Chaos

Conversation

Purity comes in many forms. I don't really want to give birth to kids. I'd want to adopt. Mainly because I know that I don't need a man to get kids and take care of them and because I can do all that alone. But if I were to have a child, particularly a daughter I would teach her not to wait for anything or anyone. I would tell her not to wait around for a boy to come sweeping in to save her. I would make it a point to teach her that the world has tried to convince women that they need men to feel complete and that is one ugly lie. That she is too full of depth and honesty to play dumb for some insecure boy. I wouldn't let her grow up with the sleeping beauty mentality, expecting some guy to waltz up the ivory tower to wake her up. I'd tell her she is already awake and that she is full of fire that she could melt that ivory tower to the ground. Then I would tell her that when she sorts through the boys that have tried to knock on her door and been denied, that the right one will come along someday. When he does that, she needs to thoroughly understand emotional purity. She needs to know that purity comes in many forms and that emotional purity is as important as physical and mental and spiritual purity. And when she asks, "Mom, what's the difference between these forms of purity?" I'd reply saying "Emotional purity means that you know who you are and what your heart wants. While knowing what your heart wants, knowing that you are in control of your feelings. Your feelings don't own you, you own them. Physical purity is when you treat your body as a temple because alive or dead your body will never leave you. It'll forever stay with you, and for it to be respected you should respect and love it. Mental purity means acknowledging that what is inside you is what defines you. Your actions are backed by whatever you desire. Spiritual purity values moral cleanliness and beliefs. Before believing in anything you should always believe in your God, and the second most important person you need to value is yourself. Always believe in yourself no matter what the circumstances hold." I'd teach her the true meaning of forgiveness and apologizing and that not everyone deserves them. I would tell her that she is not allowed to hide her true self from other's comfort. Also, I would tell her if there's an adventure in her heart that she should do everything in her power to make it happen. I'd tell her that when she lets the world influence her, she'd be shrinking her good capacity but if she starts giving good chances, then she'll be amazed by how good she'd be capable of. I'll tell her to seek everything she needs by whoever she feels comfortable talking to and then go fight for what she wants. I would tell her that the world has been waiting for her since the beginning of time. I would tell her that she is worth more bouquets of roses and a million novels wrapped up in one, more than anyone could ever lay eyes on. After our conversation ends, I'd take her in my arms and hug her tight and say, "The world is yours. Go get it. I'll be right behind you the whole time."

And this is my perspective on how this generation cautions us to raise our daughters.