Big F**king Mood: A New Narrative

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Sorry about this.

  That whole "You have to be happy alone before you can be happy with someone else thing" is kind of bullsh*t. I mean that's such a generic Hallmark kind of statement that only really applies to certain situations and certain kinds of people. And that's great and everything, but people treat it like it's some kind of universal truth that applies to everyone. It really doesn't.

  I mean, what about people with depression and some severe insecurity issues? I mean sometimes people just haven't reached the point- or isn't quite capable of reaching the point where they're happy with themselves. It's sad but like maybe some people need that extra validation. I mean, please by all means work on bettering yourself and building your confidence. That's amazing and something everyone should do. But no one ever seems to think about people who need the extra help.

  Maybe someone needs a friend or a significant other to say "Hey, I want you here and you're worth something." Self-worth and confidence is an absolutely amazing thing to possess, but not everyone has it, okay? It's not an easy thing to acquire. And I just feel like telling people that they need to...deny themselves the validation that can come from a being in a relationship until they scrape together enough to not really need it is counterintuitive.

  I'm not saying that you shouldn't try to find your own self-worth. I'm not saying that all. I'm just saying that you don't need to be alone to do it, and that maybe having someone with you will actually help more than struggling on your own.

  Sorry.

-   to be alone