My Littlespace a book about me

Part 15- Promises!!

When you make a promise to your little, you'd better be ready to follow through. You need to remember that your little hangs onto your every word as if it were law. Simple things, such as promising to help with a task, reading to him/her, playing a game after work/school, spending the day with him/her, watching a favorite movie, are not "simple" things to your little. Even if the promises are forgotten, or pushed aside by yourself, trust me... your little has not forgotten about them. There is a high chance that your little is still waiting for you to fulfill the promise, or is very hurt that it hasn't happened yet.

Breaking a promise, for a little is up there with telling your little a lie. It is vital that your little is able to trust you fully, without refrain, and not constantly afraid of disappointment from you. With every broken promise, his/her trust begins to crack a little bit each time. Eventually that trust will shatter altogether, and your little could just stop believing anything you say at all. You should always be careful with your wording to your little, in order to avoid this disaster. Instead of saying "after work/school i WILL take you out to a movie", instead say "Mommy/Daddy will do her/his best to keep the schedule clear so i can take you to a movie, but remember that i have that deadline i need to meet first". Changing your wording slightly saves you both from the possibility of miss- communication. You may not even mean something to sound like a promise, because maybe, you assumed that your little knew something.could possibly come up and ruin the plans. While it seems logical that your little would know that, he/she may not even be aware of or see in the same importance of whatever the issue is; whereas you have all of the information.

If you do commit and make a promise, then something out of your control changes your plans together, you should be sure to talk with your little as soon as possible; and explain that you had no other choice but to cancel the plans previously made. Let your little know that you have every intention of fulfilling the promise, and make up for the inconvenience as soon as you conceivably can (giving your little a pink sprinkle cupcake may help in this situation, and is advised for your well being). When you choose to say nothing at all, and just assume that your little will understand, you leave room for hurt feelings.

IN SHORT:

Choose your words carefully and be forthcoming with as much of the information as possible. When everything is out on the table, your little can plan accordingly; and set up his/her expectations practically.