My Littlespace a book about me

Part 51- Listen Up

Listen up, ok so we all know how littles can be insecure about being well...a little. Being a CG means it's our job to help them make sure they know they are loved and wanted.

For the caregivers

First off, work out a system. If you are sleeping and never wake up to texts notifications, make sure your little knows that they can call your phone to wake you up. If phone calls are stressful for either party, don't pick up. Decline the call then look at your messages. they most likely have been messaging you because they need your help. Do not answer with any hints of irritation. Give yourself a moment to wake up before replying. If you don't have any texts to reply to, then you go to message is "whats wrong?" Your little is probably panicking, so be gentle and caring.

Listen

Listen to what is bothering your little. Maybe they haven't slept yet because their mind wouldn't shut up or they had a nightmare and they need your help to calm down so they can go back to sleep. Regardless of the situation, reassurance is needed! Let them know that you're proud of them for reaching out for help.

Communicate 

They need your help, do not give them short answers. It will make them feel like they bothered you and start  to regret asking you for help. Ask them questions "why do you feel this way?" "what can i do to help you?" "what do you need?" "what happened in your nightmare?" 

Reassurance

Let them know that you're not going anywhere until they are okay. Use their favorite pet names. Explain why you're their mommy/daddy! Even if you have to do this 3 times a day, and they've heard it a million times, do it again. They are loved. Tell them. Most littles think they are too much to handle. Shut down that thought ASAP.

Praise

They woke you up, asked for help, needed/wanted you. Again: Most littles think they are too much. Tell them how proud you are of them for reaching out, waking you up. Reassure them they are always allowed to ask for help.

No excuses

You have no reason to be nasty with your little. Even if you work all day, have mental things going on, or your just plain exhausted. This does not give you the excuse to be harsh and unloving/uncaring to your little. They are our treasures; treat them as such!

For the littles

Please tell us whats wrong! We care about you so much! Even if you don't know whats wrong, you need to work with us and help us find out whats making you upset. We want to help.

Breath!

You are safe. Try and calm down. We understand that it isn't always easy for you to calm down on the spot, but it's important that you try.

Speak Up!

We don't like it when our angels are upset. If you think you're being silly or overreacting, do not keep whats bothering you all bottled up. That's what we're here for, we all want to know whats going on in your head. You are clearly upset, it is not silly to us.

Listen!

Understand that we are not mad at you. We are trying to help. Listen to what we have to say and focus on us. Cuddle up with your stuffies and listen to Mommy/Daddy

Communicate!

This is not like speak up! If we say something and it just makes you more upset, please tell us. We may have worded it wrong and that wasn't our intention to make it worse. Ask us questions too! We want to know everything that you're afraid of. No question is a silly question.

Relax

Have you been listening? You must be calmed down by now, if you aren't, let us know that you still have worries. We always want to be there, we love and care about you. Relationships aren't always easy! They take alot of patience and communication for them to work. Not all relationships are the same. This is pretty much the baseline. Work together. Remember that it's ok to need help.