THE LOST LETTER

To Dumb Parents

Oh, so after all this time you decide to show up now? What do you plan on changing huh? Now you listen to me and listen carefully, I’m not talking to you as a social worker or anything like that I’m talking to you as a man who has a family, your child was going through a lot in life and you were not there and I know, to you heartbreak, depression and suicidal thoughts may seem as nothing but trust me they more than that, I was there when he needed to talk to someone, where were you? I was there when I saw the scars on his arms and acted like I didn’t because I didn’t want to disturb him when he was venting, he lost his mother and where were you? I was there before he lost himself and gave up and committed suicide…now I want you to look at me and look at your son laying there and tell me that whatever you were doing all along was more important than being with your son

As a parent you need to realise that the world is changing, back then your problems would be getting education and fighting racism and all of that, true, but back then there were still people who suffered from depression, and while you always ignore the signs that you see, that your child isn’t okay and you say “he/she is just begging for attention” you are fooling yourself…is your child begging for attention when she cries herself to bed? Will she be begging for attention when he waits for you guys to go to work so that she can hang himself? You are stupid to think children don’t have problems, just because you pay for their school fees and they don’t pay for the rent, water and electricity doesn’t mean they don’t have troubles, the world is a dark place and your son needed you but you weren’t there…the truth is they give you a reason to wake up in the morning, to know you not doing this for yourself but your family, or you’ll be a lonely man working 9 to 5 to be a tax payer… and when you leave these doors and go drink the pain away ask yourself, is there an age to feel whatever you’ll be feeling, when you’ll be drinking? And again this is just advice that you should give your friends who have sons…stop this nonsense that boys don’t cry, “be a man be strong, that if a boy says he needs counselling”  he is just wasting your money and time, no he could be going through stuff that he can’t actually talk to his parents about, like the reason why you left his mother all alone to raise him while he was 10 years old, nobody gave him the truth that he was seeking, now if you still believe children are robots and they are attention seekers when they say they not okay they just want to sleep…I suggest you wake your son from the long sleep he is in, and tell him to be the same man that you are…