A collection of self-help ideas, motivation, story rejects, poems, and bits of humor for the sad soul. These are random bits of satirical, sarcastic and upright stupid nonsense compiled into a creation that's meant to help average teenagers get out...
We all know those people. The ones that have no self-control. That have no filter. That just make you go, "WHHHHHHHHUBDIUEIFYQYRBOCuyAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaeuuegfhgfqfugewughghhhhhhh"
Some people who are fully functioning adults and don't have any reason to be unbearable somehow manage to annoy the heck out of everyone they meet. I've met my fair share of those people. I have a loooooooooooot of experience learning how to deal with them.
First of all, the best thing you can do in any situation of annoyance is to ignore the person and hope that they leave you alone. If they're somewhat capable of seeing social signals, they should realize that you aren't giving them any attention and they will stop. On the other hand, some people just can't recognize when to stop. That's when you have to politely say, "Hey, this makes me uncomfortable, please stop". Or "Hey, that's a little too much, please stop". 75% of the time they'll be normal human beings and apologize for their actions. But! If they continue to do whatever they are up to and laugh off your request like it's a joke. THEN you can say, "Dude you're bugging me, knock it off". Or something along those lines.
I recently went to a K-pop concert and as you can imagine, there were a couple of pretty annoying people there. First of all, my sister. I dragged her along because my parents didn't want me going by myself. She complained the entire time. That was pretty annoying. But since she's my sister I can jump straight to the SHUT UP and not have to be polite. Secondly, the girl next to me kept basically shoving me but it's a rock concert so I guess that was okay. At least there wasn't alcohol.
So here's some real tea. I'm the admin of this chat group on an app called Band. The one I'm running is for fans of BTS (Of course what would you expect from me) and there are around 80 children that I have to take care of now (ages 9-17) Most of them are 14. But, of course, like any other social media, we get creepers. So I have to ward off creepy old guys or people trying to sell stuff or bullies or whatever. I had a guy a few days ago that tried to sell bitcoins? Not sure what that is but here I'll post the screenshot.
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So yeah I was kinda pissed at him for bothering everyone and one of the girls directed him to me and he messaged me. I probably could've been a bit nicer but I gave him a time limit and he just laughed. I guess he didn't know I would actually do it? So I just immediately removed him because I can. Hooray!
I seriously believe that some of the best advice for annoying people is just being patient. But this is coming from someone who is hardly patient so I don't know how seriously you should take that.
There's a guy in my chemistry class, who we will call Dale. Dale is a bit of a know-it-all. During class our professor put us in groups to work practice problems. There were about six of us in a group. Five of the six of us would all work the problems out together and all end up agreeing on the answer. Dale, however, knew "by instinct" that these answers were wrong. He graciously offered to "just check by himself in case WE (the majority) missed anything". I would look at my classmate (who we will call Katie) with a: "I seriously can't with this kid I want to shoot a wall" look. And she would nod her head. And Dale, poor fellow, would realize that we got the answer right. And just not say anything. He used the "instinct" excuse pretty much every time. At one point I even said, "Dale this is chemistry, instincts won't help you here". Poor Dale.
But anyway. Be patient.
Annoyance
People like to whine
They are loud
No remorse
People like to invade
Personal space?
No remorse
People like to talk
They are loud
No remorse
People don't always realize
What they are doing
What is worse?
Argue all you want
Boss them around
Belittle, talk down
When you realize
They are actually good
Much remorse
A poem by Samantha Bond
My friend I mentioned a WAY long time ago (We'll give her a name this time and call her Skyler. She'll get that reference.) Sky and I weren't always on friendly terms. I was a bit touchy as a kid too so our poor relationship was mostly my fault. Sky was a very friendly and expressive girl who LOVED hugging people. And I was a very emo and very grumpy girl who HATED hugging people. You can imagine how that went. And I was so rude. OH!!! I WAS SO RUDE!!! I just. Ugh. But eventually I got off my high horse and now she's one of my closest friends and I can't live without her so. Just goes to show how people can change.
I had another friend of a similar situation (Let's call her Mary maybe?) Mary and I didn't get along either. We also didn't know each other that well. I really only knew her through her ex-boyfriend who ended up being kind of a jerk to her and spreading false rumors (one of the subject I'll be covering soon) and I believed them without getting to know Mary myself. So because I had this false perception that Mary was an awful person I didn't even try to reach out. It wasn't until her brother contacted everyone on a really old group chat that I discovered she liked K-pop (as I just started liking it) and we connected over that. And now I know those rumors were just that: rumors. And she's also one of my best friends that I can't live without.
All these enemy-turned-friends stories make me realize how much of a jerk I was. I wish I hadn't been so rude. It's really ironic that some of the people I disliked the most ended up being my best friends. In fact, ALL of my current best friends and I had sour histories. Which is actually really weird. Maybe try being nice to that "annoying" or "rude" friend and they'll turn out being the best thing that's ever happened to you!
What to Take Away from This: Obviously don't judge a book by its cover.
Thank you for reading, stay healthy and happy 🤙 -Sam (New outro who?)
