Dangerously in Love

Mindset

Fast forward to a couple of months later, after she learned how to trust him, she had these conversations with him. 

She asked him, "What do u love about us? (Is this s repeated question? If yes u can ignore)"  

He replied, "Already done that. Ignored that already." 

She replied, "I just like when you tell me things about our relationship." 

He replied, "I see. I'm always the one doing the whole talking. You never say anything." 

She answered, "Ok then. I love our relationship as well. I love that you care about me and really treated me right and I like hearing you talk."  

He responded, "That's what I don't like doing. Talking too much. Really don't think so tho. Because if you do, there are some useless issues we have had that shouldn't be heard off. Or the way you think of me most times. Sometimes, I really do ask my self if this whole stuff really worth it. Trust me, I do feel that way most times. But I just keep quiet and let it sly. You really have cost me many pains and sleepless nights. Due to some silly things you do. That sometimes I just want to give this whole stuff up but on second thought, I just let it sly and just act matured over it. To be honest, you have really pushed me to the wall so bad."  

She responded, "First of all, I do apologize over my silly things. Second of all, I love you in my own ways. Third, if I don't love you and this relationship then why would I bother ignoring all the red flags/signs and choose to be with you? 

He replied, "Babe, it's fine. We are just having a discussion. Just telling you what I have really passed through. Which I can't keep doing all the time. It's has gotten to its peak babe. There are something things that if you give it your best and still it doesn't work out then it's not for you. I personally if I'm to leave this relationship tomorrow, I would leave having no regrets. Because deep down I know I have it my best. But probably turns out harmful to my own well being. So for peace of mind, I just leave. Babe, that's the limit all this is getting into." 

She's afraid that he's going to let her go, "So all the talks about the future it's all to not available? I did tell you that you should hold on to me because of my mental health issue, things can get unsteady." 

He responded, "There can't be a future when the present is hard to cope with. This is a step by step process. We can't keep fighting over silly things and you expect that to last for long. Up until the future. That's toxic. You grow day by day improving, letting go of so many things, direct your thoughts to what would be better and improve the relationship, and not searching and looking for problems and more issues. That's not how to build a relationship. Rather, you are destroying all efforts being put into the relationship and no matter how patient someone is with that kind of stuff repeating itself, you can easily get tired of the whole thing. If you do understand what I mean, it becomes toxic even to your own self. I can't keep fighting with you for you to learn, babe. That's childish and immature. There are other ways to learn and get better than fight. Please change that mindset. You must not learn that way. Because for me I can't keep up. I hate the stress of fighting over silly things. Change that mindset immediately. It's bad."  

She responded, "Ok. You're the best thing that ever happens to me, babe. And to be honest, it's hard for me sometimes because I only got to see your face for 21 seconds and didn't get a chance to see you more due to the hack. While your ex may be got easier to know and see you because she got to do video calls with you. Also, rule in the online dating world is to never give money to someone that I didn't know but I did this anyway because I do trust you and I don't want this to be destroyed and hurt one day. So those two main things were my biggest issues with you if I'm being honest. So yeah, I do love you in my own ways...and us fighting over silly things is because of my bad experiences in the past that it seems to gain my trust only to destroy them so I'm sorry if I do have big trust issues over everyone that I meet especially online. And for me to give you nudes it's like a big step and I never have done that to anyone not even with my ex."