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About Pain

Pain is something that indeed makes you strong but it supposedly makes you a better person. The power gained from the pain must be used wisely and not for spreading pain to people around you without even thinking of the consequences and only try to save yourself in any shape or form. 

Like, I'm from the people who got hurt too much. Both emotionally/psychologically and physically from when I remember myself as a little kid to see both myself and others getting hurt so badly. Even people who weren't even known to me. And trust me, my own cases were far from worse than a simple physical attack or a simple emotional/psychological attack. Okay, no matter how far from worse every case is, the strength still has to be used wisely. If you want to become a better person, never do what others did to you, never say what others said about you, never spread lies about someone to claim that they're true while they're not only to even turn people against him/her who did not harass or attack you in the first place in any shape or form or you will be the one to get in trouble no matter if the excuses are petty or not, but tell what parts of the case were wrong and come to think of the reasons why someone wanted to attack you in any shape or form.

(For example, when someone spreads lies about you on a social network or in a coffee shop or a cafe bar with people gathered in it, and claims that his/hers lies and gashlights are true, it means that they want to hide behind their finger only to hide their guilt and how much proud they feel about their actions and sayings. No matter if the sayings are petty excuses or excuses that have to do with their actions that they wanna put on their victim only to claim that whatever happened, it happened because of the victim supposedly. Yes, I've been gashlighted too. But this doesn't mean that I'll do the same things to everyone. It's not in my character to hurt others the same ways I was hurt by specific people. Yes, among these people who hurt me too, they were people who told me that they'll be proud of me if I hurt others the same ways they hurt me but despite I would never do that and never did that, I knew that they told me so only to spread shit about me and make me look the bad guy. I even came to think that they feel proud of how much they hurt me but it doesn't matter if I didn't tell that to them in their face that moment but I did it afterwards only to find out that they felt triggered in this case. You know. Body language is the key and the excuses you'll understand that they're petty and paranoid. It happens even at the moments we see people who murdered their victims that they try to hide. It's a very heavy topic to talk about. I know bros.) 

(Why do I work like as if I'm a police officer or a simple police woman or like a lawyer?) 

(Yeah, anyway. This is an example of why I say that the strength needs to be used wisely but it depends on what you want to use it for. If you use your strenght to hurt people in any shape or form, you will be the one who will get in trouble and lose the game but if you use the strength wisely, you will become a better version of yourself slowly step by step. Because you know, you cannot become someone better in a night. It needs time. Healing yourself also needs time. Accept what happened to move on needs time. Hurting someone takes less than a minute. But what you'll do with your strength is your choice. I chose to become a better version of myself. I chose to use my strength wisely. Although most people who were attackers (especially the ones we have seen on tv news through all of these years) never seemed to regret for their actions, I honestly can't hope nor I can believe for this type of persons to change for the better so you know, it's better to look for yourself to become a better person understand what is wrong and what is right and leave these people who hurt other people behind.) Thinking of consequences is also a part of using the strength wisely. 

Remember, being strong doesn't mean you don't get hurt or you're weak. Strong people are not robots nor they're emotionless. Everyone has the right to have emotions and mental breakdowns. Everyone has the right to call out for help when trouble happens or even when you have to be rushed into the hospital or into a nearby clinic center. Even the weakest people alive. What makes someone weak is violence and toxic traits without thinking of any consequences but only to save themselves and thinks that violence and toxic traits are okay to be used while they're not despite that they think that this is strength. Like I say, the use of your strenght depends on your choice.