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Advices #1

If you have issues about yourself than I can help. I can share some stuff I did to fix myself according to the issues you might have had or keep having for some reasons I can't know as a single person due to the fact that I have nothing to do with your personal life.

So let me begin.

1. Wanna be helpful? Go ask someone who's having a trouble or can't cope on something where can you help him/her. First of all you don't have to be afraid of asking. Because if you never ask, then you'll never learn what was the problem of the person you'd like to help and also.... you will never learn if you could really help or not. Also, share ideas of possible solutions to help somebody because when things get out of hand, you must have a plan.

2. Wishing of being a good person is a lovely thing to do. (This is what I was wishing for myself to be too. Even when I was younger). Well, I know it's hard to do it so (according to my experience at least) but you have to have confidence that you'll gonna be a good person. If you help others, do them the favours that asked you to do (for example, your mother or brother for example.... to wash their clothes, clean their room ect.) and even something more that didn't ask you as a favour to do, will make you feel happy and confident that they will be impressed and even thankful towards you. They will make you happy either. Even by giving and doing something that you didn't expect of them to do for you so. This is a way to treat you better tho. As like another way of a good treatment is to talking to you gently. That makes your heart melt out of the warm behaviour you'll hear from your people being thankful to you about something or being supportive towards you for what you had created and for what you've been feeling anxious for. So if you'll talk to them gently back, you'll feel more better with yourself. So those are ways that will bring you the confidence that you'll gonna be a good person. Even if you show acceptance to the people you love, they'll do it to you too. No matter what. Because you know.... these are cases in which "whatever you give, you take it". (το λεω με την ελληνικη εννοια του ο,τι δινεις, παιρνεις). So yeah, it depends on how you treat someone and how you're being treated by others in my opinion. Because if someone is gentle towards you, you'll gonna be gentle towards them too and vice versa in my opinion. I think I've said enough towards this example.

3. Wanna be even a little interesting? Just don't be afraid of showing who you really are and what you like and what you don't like although you ought to give emphasis more to your positive side and not to your negative side because if you do emphasise on your negative side, then people will think that you wanna tell them something bad so it's better to give more emphasis to your positive side of yourself so they can show interest in your positive side of yourself. Don't be negative. You just need to have the guts to show who you really are and what you really are and what you like with all of your heart. There's no need to be afraid over it.

4. Afraid of being toxic and of hurting others? Hmmm... I think I know how to help here. Even though I was having the same fears too. Well.... in my opinion, you just don't have to emphasise on your fears. You have to forget them. Like I said before, emphasise on the positive parts of yourself. Also, it's normal to hurt others even if you didn't mean to because of not having the intention to do so but when you understand that you hurt someone, even by not having the intention to do so, you understand that it was wrong to do so in the first place. And by understanding that, you're being ethical. Not only in that case but in more cases you did more mistakes no matter if they were in your intention. Because when you understand them, you're being ethical I say. Because ethical is someone who understands their mistakes. (Με την ελληνικη εννοια: Ηθικος ειναι οποιος καταλαβαινει τα λαθη του). So yeah, by being ethical, is a sign that you're getting the hopes and confidence of being a good person.

5. Wanna avoid fights? Well.... I think I know how to help there too. Just try not to be involved in fights and just try to handle the situations calmly so you can not lose control and make your standards fall into the ground because of being involved into a fight (although, don't get me wrong, I know it's normal being involved in fights but it's not nice of having fights happening in my opinion. Even over something stupid or even over something serious. Stuff must be solved in a calm way with possible solutions that will come out as plans when things are getting out of hand). So yeah, it's important not to lose both your temper and control but the most important part of this case is to try to handle the situation calmly.

That's all~

Hope this helps anyone who has self issues although it's normal having self issues. I must admit that I was in the same phase too. Even until I was 17 years old. So yeah... again I hope I helped.