Loving The Countess of Vesuvia (Nadia requests and headcanons)

Nadia and physical touch + a little guide to comforting her

Wattpad is a bitch, so I had to shorten the original title. I only wanted to add that the guide is from someone (me) who also tends to withdraw. 

Anyway.

Here I am again, analyzing my favorite fictional wife.

In Nadia's world, genuine physical affection is a luxury. She might occasionally feel the touch of servants as they get her ready for the day, as they brush and wash her hair, as they dress her, but that's pretty much the only way she experiences human touch. It is meaningless, there's no care or feeling behind it, it's just people doing their jobs. She's a princess and a countess, so touching her is a privilege, something that many wouldn't even dare to do. It is partly why being with her feels so exciting, but I'm not going to elaborate on that right now.

The lack of physcial touch in Nadia's life creates a sense of isolation, it makes her depressed, stressed, and as a result, she finds it harder to trust others. It certainly contributes to her habit of withdrawing to her contemplation tower and as someone who does the same (except I don't have a whole tower to retreat to,) I can confidently say that whenever something triggers this need for withdrawal, being touched or approached by others only makes things worse. It only creates resentment and it's hard to believe that they're being genuine, that they actually care. Nadia was also quick to say that MC would leave her when Nasmira arrived because her sister's presence caused her to relapse into her withdrawal girlie era.

But with MC, she eventually wants them to pull her back from her isolation. Yeah, MC get special treatment because they're literally the love of her life. She might still withdraw, but when it hits, she's gonna be all sulky and grumpy, while secretly hoping that MC would show up and listen to her vent out her frustrations.

When that happens, be rational, but still supportive with her. Let her talk. Offer her a hug, but don't put any pressure on her if she refuses. Just converse with her. Allow her to say what's on her mind and then tell her what you think. At times, her own thoughts might be irrational. Help her see that. Just be there for her. When she's done, offer to hug her again. This time, she'll likely accept or maybe she'll ask for it herself. She might get very affectionate after all of this is done. (If you want to know more about all of this withdrawal stuff, I'm open to questions.)

Still, physical affection is something she deeply years for. When someone is important to her, Nadia is going to touch them. Maybe she'll put a hand on their back or their arm, but she'll find a subtle way to signal that she cares.

It's also a huge sign that Nadia has a crush on someone. This woman was trying to touch MC since day 1 and she wasn't hiding her attraction at all.

She's been quite lonely her entire life. Holding MC in her arms is possibly the most comforting thing to Nadia.

And, as always, she's wife. 

Also, apparently, my little collection of Nadia stuff is now really popular?