Relationships Advice

MY ADVICES TO YOUU... <3

[1.]Don't rush into a relationship. Time your time, pace yourself, enjoy the process. You want to really get to know the person you're involved with & make sure that after getting to know that person, you want to be with this person. You don't want to get involved with someone & regret it later on because by then, you might be too deeply involved with that person & it'll be extremely hard to leave. You wouldn't wanna feel stuck in a relationship you can't remove yourself from, would you? The problem with moving too fast with someone is getting attached too soon & you deal with all of these feelings you aren't ready to handle & while you're attached, the other person might not be & it'll be easier for that person to leave than it would be for you. So don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship, even if you like someone a lot. Take your time & make sure it's right.

[2.]Any guy can have sex with a girl, can feed her, can buy her things, can do things to make her feel special. But, it takes a real man to stay with her, to make her better, to help her grow, to guide her to be on the right path, to support her passions, to pursue her dreams with her, to build something with her, to show her loyalty, to give her honesty, to keep the promises he made her, to be there for her, to handle her at her worst, to lend a shoulder to cry on, to lend a hand to wipe her tears, to lend an ear to listen to her problems, to offer a pair of arms to hold her, to let her know she isn't alone like a friend would, to show her she has someone she can depend on like a brother would, to care for her & share his life with her like a lover would.

[3.]When a girl likes you, she starts to get selfish. She wants your attention only on her, she wants your time only given to her, she wants your thoughts only to be on her, she wants your affection to only be towards her. When she wants a guy, she wants all of him & she won't settle to just have parts of him. She won't like it when he doesn't make her feel like she's special to him because her mind's gonna tell her either he's busy making another girl feel special or he's starting to lose interest or he doesn't find her as attractive. Just a whole bunch of crazy thoughts all mixed up, making her even more selfish for him. She'll start trying even harder to get what she wants from him until he gives it to her & if even then she doesn't get it, then she'll start to feel like he can't give her 100% of him & she'll leave & try to find it elsewhere. Either she can have you to herself, or she wont want you at all.

[4.]Not every girl is gonna look like a supermodel. Not every girl is going to have a clear face. Not every girl is gonna have that skinny, slim body. Not every girl is gonna have thick thighs. Not every girl is gonna have a flat stomach. Not every girl is gonna have big boobs. Not every girl is gonna have a big ass. Not every girl is gonna know how to cook. Not every girl is gonna know how to play video games. Not every girl is gonna have tattoos. Not every girl is gonna know how to roll a blunt. Not every girl is gonna know how to handle her liquor. Not every girl is gonna be exactly the way you want her to be. Not every girl is gonna be perfect. But you know what? It's not about finding that "perfect" girl, it's about finding a girl who you can love perfectly, just the way she is, flaws & all. Just because a girl doesn't meet up your standards, doesn't make her any less of a girl who's capable to love you.

[5.]She knows you're good looking, she knows you can get girls, she knows any girl would be lucky to have you, & that's what she's so afraid of. The thought that she has you & she could lose you on any day & she wouldn't be able to see it coming. The thought that you could meet another girl & everything you feel about her could go away. The thought that you might meet someone better & she'll no longer be good enough for you. The thought that one of your exes decides to talk to you again & old feelings for her might come back. The thought that you might change your mind about being with her because you might get bored of her & want to be single again. All these thoughts racing through her head & it just makes her so scared. Does she like thinking about these thoughts? Of course not, it just comes to her. She just doesn't ever want to lose you.

[6.] She doesn't care if you're broke, bro. She doesn't mind that you don't make a lot of money because the money isn't why she's with you. She knows you work hard, she knows you try, & that's all she can ever ask of you. You shouldn't feel embarassed that you don't make that much, it's not like she's going to leave you & go find a guy who does make a lot of money. She's there to support you if you need anything. Don't worry about her, she works & makes her own money. She ain't the type of girl who makes the guy pay for everything & don't ever hesitate to ask her if you need anything. So what if you can't afford fancy things, she can live without them. Most things are expensive for no reason anyways. She appreciates what you do get for her because it's the thought that counts & the fact that you give anything to her that makes it so special.

[7.] He may hurt her, cause her pain, make her cry, break her hurt but you know what? She would rather have her heart broken by him than any other guy out there. Why? Because at least with him, she'd actually want to work things out. Because at least with him, she knows he does have a good heart. Because at least with him, she won't give up on what they've built together. She understands him & how he is, she doesn't expect him to be perfect. At first, she did but now her expectations from him are more realistic. She knows he can never fully be the way she wants him to be but to her surprise, that's okay because she loves him for the way he is, flaws & all. Underneath all of those flaws is a guy who does care about her & she can see that, & she's happy to have something real to fight for & hold on to. So even when things get ugly, even when she hates him, she loves him too much to leave.

[8.] After being with someone for a long time, it's hard to imagine what life would be like without them. After we've familiarized ourselves with someone for awhile, it's hard to re-adjust back to the way things were before we met them. After talking to the same person every day for a long period of time, it's hard to get used to not have conversations with them anymore. After being around the same person all the time for a good length of time, it's hard to get used to not seeing them stand beside you anymore. After sharing so many memories with someone special, it's hard to move forward with your life & act like all of it never happened. After loving someone for as long as you can remember, it's hard to try to get over those feelings & act like they aren't there. I guess that's why, it's hard to leave someone after they've been a part of our lives for so long.

[9.] As a man, you're supposed to be there for your girl, you're supposed to protect her from getting hurt, you're supposed to stand up for her when someone's getting in her face or being disrespectful, you're supposed to be tolarent of her attitude & understanding of her mood swings, you're supposed to be accepting of her flaws & patient with her feelings, you're supposed to be faithful with your thoughts & committed to your promises made to her, you're supposed to give her a reason why you deserve her & why you'll continue to deserve her, you're supposed to support her in everything she does & guide her into making good decisions, you're supposed to not judge her for her mistakes & not let her past get in the way of how you feel about her now, you're supposed to love her even during the worst times & not leave when things get hard.

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