Relationships Advice

Hardest Things

[146.]She doesn't expect you to text her all the time, but she does expect you to talk to her. She doesn't expect you to see her all the time, but she does expect you to make time for her. She doesn't expect you to be lovey-dovey with her all the time, but she does expect you to show her affection. She doesn't expect you to be a gentleman all the time, but she does expect you to respect her. She doesn't expect you to spoil her all the time, but she does expect you to be thoughtful. She doesn't expect you to do and say all the right things, but she does expect you to make efforts. She doesn't expect you to understand how she is all the time, but she does expect you to be patient with her. She doesn't expect you to like everything she does, but she does expect you to deal with it. She doesn't expect you to be perfect, but she does expect you to try your best at loving her.

[147.] Honestly, who cares if a girl doesn't know how to cook or is too lazy to clean? She isn't wifey material because she can't do these things? That's stupid. Who cares if a girl doesn't have tattoos or can't roll a blunt or doesn't know how to drive stick shift? She isn't sexy because she doesn't have these qualities? That's dumb. Who cares if a girl doesn't like to party or get high or get drunk? She isn't fun because she doesn't do these things? That's ridiculous. Who cares if a girl doesn't have big boobs or a big ass? She isn't approachable because she doesn't have these features? That's not fair. You shouldn't look at girls for everything they lack, you should look at girls for what qualities and features and skills and interests they do have. Ladies, don't ever change yourself just to fit in or get certain guys to like you. It isn't worth giving up who you really are.

[148.] It's the little things that matter most to her. Every small gesture you make and every little detail you mention counts. It's simple things like randomly grabbing her hand to hold it, spontaneously hug her from behind, keep holding on while she thinks the hug is about to end, pull her in to cuddle as you guys are watching a movie, make her say ahhhh and feed her what you were about to eat, kiss her on her forehead while she rests her head on your chest, tell her she's beautiful right after she calls herself ugly, bring up something she said awhile back to show her you remember, put away your phone and give her all of your attention, reassure her on how you feel about her when she has her doubts, tell her you miss her while you're away from her, tell her you love her just to say it because just by hearing that come from you, it makes her so happy.

[149.] She likes you, but she's afraid to get attached to you. It's just that every guy she's ever gotten attached to, ended up not being in her life anymore because they started to hate each other. Yeah, fights and arguments are normal in relationships but too much of it is just dysfunctional and it led up to cutting off all ties with all of them. She's afraid that the same thing is gonna happen with you. You guys may be getting along right now and the vibes between you two may feel right at the moment, but she's scared that once you guys get too comfortable with each other, you guys will start fighting over stupid things, have pointless arguments, and see the ugly sides of each other. The last thing she wants is for you two to start hating each other and eventually leaving each others' lives. She doesn't want you to abandon her like every other guy she's met.

[150.] Fight for her, bro. Show her that you're afraid to lose her. It doesn't matter how long you've been together and how sure you are that you guys won't end. You still have to show that you wouldn't want to lose her. Just by showing her that reassures her that you haven't lost any feelings for her. When you guys have a fight, she wants to see you stand up for your relationship when it's on the brink of falling apart. She wants to see you tell her "No, I don't want to break up" when she says "Maybe we should just end it". Shs wants to see you give her a good reason to stay with you when she has a better reason to leave you. If you feel like you're about to lose her, prove to her that you still deserve her and win her back. A girl just needs to see for herself how much you cherish what you share with her and you'd do anything to hold on to your relationship because it means everything to you.

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