Girly Advice

How to grow up

So this is something I know a lot of people struggle with especially *cough cough boys cough* But to be honest it's something that came really easily to me. I had legit almost no problems when it came to having to grow up except that I grew up too quickly and when the day came when I started wanting kids with my ex my mom was all like "oh hell no" lol. The joys of being 17 but mentaly 30. #TheStruggleIsReal. But like honestly me and actually my ex were pretty mature and that's really hard to find at our age. The teachers actually called us mini adults But enough of me talking this....is how to grow up.

Step 1. Let go of the past. Im serious, you will never be a kid again. That's kinda harsh, but if you want to grow up, you need to realize you can't keep playing with dolls and expect your parents handle everything. If you want to grow up it's time to pick up the toys yourself, and leave them there. Yeah it may feel sad and all at first, but that's a part of growing up. It's not that adults can't play with toys or that it's only a kid thing, it that adults don't have time for it anymore. You have responsibilities now and when you do get time off, all your going to want to do is sleep. Because life is stressful. Let go of the idea that things will work themselves out. A true mature adult or teen realizes that there is a time to play but things need to get done first.

Step 2. Take care of yourself. Ladies I mean like go take a bath without mom telling you too. Brush your hair so it looks decent. Wear deodorant. Shave them pits and legs. Wash your own landry. Wear clean cloths. Brush your teeth. I know it sounds simple, but you would be surprised how many people expect mommy and daddy to tell them to do these things. Do it yourself before they have to tell you.

Step 3. Actually care about school. Adults realize that they need school. Because you know what, i'm going to be brutally honest here. It is so hard when you fail school. Now, if you fail high school, even Mcdonald's won't hire you. You need to realize that right now, you might not care about what job you get, when you have 2 kids, and husband/wife and bills, you will care. And if you're only making 10$ an hour, your life is going to be hell. Excuse my language, but it's true. Take advantage of school now and get it now. So when you do go to college, you don't have to pay an extra 1000+ dollars just to learn what Mx+b=. What you learn now is pretty much the same as college except in college you pay for it.

Step 4. This may seem weird, but don't date just to date. Mature adults don't do that. That's my favorite part of my ex and why I want to get back with him. We are both very mature and we date to find a spouse. I know you're all like, i'm 14 I don't want to think about marriage. But that's how adults act. They're done playing games, they're ready to start a family. I'm not saying you have to stay with only 1 boyfriend, but what i'm saying is don't have a new one every 2 weeks. And look in the ones you do date what you like about them. And what you would like your future husband to have that they do. An example is that I love my ex because

1. he wanted to get married young

2. he was the same religion as me

3. he was my type and i found him good looking

4. he loved kids

5. he was good with kids

6.he supported all my dreams

7. he wanted to be a doctor

8. we had the same dreams

before you say you love someone, really write down and look why you love them. Stop lusting over a bunch of guys. That's immature and honestly just disgusting to tell 20+ guys you love them. Realize what love really is, and don't just throw it around.

Step 5.Stop blaming others. Adults don't do that, they take responsibility. If you broke mom's flower pot, don't blame poor little timmy. Be honest and apologize.

Step 6. Don't talk vulgar. Yeah you think by saying oh yeah he's so sexy i...... STOP!!!! Adults NEVER talk like that. That is disgusting and not okay. At all. Your not cool by saying that to the poor girl next to you. You look like an immature teenager looking for attention. And if you say things like this stop. Its really disrespectful and that language belongs in a bar not a pretty girl like you.

step 7. Don't feel the need to fight everyone. Adults swallow a lot of things they wanna say, but can't because its disrespectful.

step 8. Hang out with adults. Seriously, this is one of the biggest ways to grow up because you see and mimic how they act.

So my tips for you Kitty's is follow my tips if you want to grow up, but please don't push yourself unless your ready. Grow up at your own pace, and remember, slow and steady wins the race :)

Good luck Kitty's and remember to stay happy. =^^=

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