Girly Advice

Is it really Love?

Hello kitty's so today's topic is kinda a touchy subject for me *Cries because i'm still in love with my ex* But I think that this basic psychology fact is 1. very intersting 2. very useful for us girls.

Okay so let me start out by saying pretty much we always start out with a crush. You know everything about him just makes you feel giddy. His eyes. His hair. His voice. His style. His smell. Him. I didn't even say his name but your thinking about him right now aren't you?

A crush, as defined by google "a brief but intense infatuation for someone, especially someone unattainable or inappropriate."

Okay google way to make us sound like a bunch of lusty girls....

My definition of a crush. "That guy/girl.....who just makes you feel on top of the world...you get butterflies in your tummy when you see them....and you blush when they look at you...and all you want is to be theirs.....and they are perfect..."

I should soooo work for google, my definition is obviously better lol

But now for the facts. Yeah at first they seem amazing and you just want to be with them. But like google did say, this is only temporary lust. On average, a crush lasts about 4 months. So even if you date, chances are the reason you only lasted 3 months is because this was only a crush.

Big points: This will only ever be a crush if:

They are perfect to you

All that matters is that if you get together

you still think other people are attractive

you spend no time away from each other

you get too excited when they pay attention to you

you try to out do them

you try too hard to get their attention

you "Put them down"

you deny liking them one minute but then get mad when he dates someone else

Yup do you have at least 2 of these? Chances are, this is a crush.

But what about love... Love actually comes after the crush..... Here's the exciting part.

If you are attracted to one person...and really want to be with them...for more than 4 months....you are in love... even if you never dated

yup so first comes crush then came love then comes a fight then comes marriage then comes more fights than an accident then a planned then yeah lol jk jk

Love is something different than a crush....and you can't explain it...but let me tell you, it's not as amazing as it sounds..when you open up to love, you open up to get hurt...

Signs you're in love

They are not perfect. They have flaws you excpt

you can't imagine being with anyone other than them

all you want is for them to be happy

you're willing to wait for them

it's okay of you take a brake...you have faith that you'll come together again

you don't feel the need to be perfect around them

you can talk to them about things you dream of

you support them

and.....you have that gut feeling....no heart feeling...not like when you had a crush on others...this one feels different... and you just can't describe it...

I just thought this would interest y'all. There are big differences between love and lust. But I will say one last thing. Age doesn't determine weather you're in love or not. So don't listen to them when they say you're too young... Love can happen to anyone, no matter the age.

Good luck Kitty's=^^=

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