My Story

Dating: I don't take it lightly

So many times, I have had young man or old man asked me out or reveal their "love" for me. The only thing is, none of them have ever been the right man for me.

However, there has been one very nice man who has revealed that he has had a crush on me for at least 2 years. While I find his attention very sweet, and his actions very correct I simply could not see myself extending more than a friendship or brother and sister in Christ relationship towards him.

When he reiterated his crush on me, he also said that he hoped that I did not find it weird that I had a crush on him. I told him that in part it was expected, but also not expected. He ended up telling me how he sees me. He sees me as a Proverbs 31 Woman, as a Godly woman who he would want to spend more time with.

He then asked how I saw him, what I feel about him honestly. So I let him know.

I let him know that he doesn't make me insecure as a person. That he does hasn't bent to the standards of this world. I see the heart of Timothy in him: that he is eager to learn, quick to obey those in authority over him, and willing to lead where others do not. I told him that I am proud to call him my friend and brother in Christ.

He said that my words have blessed him greatly.

I think I may have just let him down easy. I don't want to break his heart, since he is such a nice young man. But what I also told him is that I didn't want to feel like I was raising my husband to maturity, nor being raised by my husband. I already have a Godly father in my life, and a husband is not a child, he is a man. He is an equal partner in the marriage. If he doesn't do his part, the relationship will fail.

When I look at a dating relationship, at least for myself anyways, I am looking at someone I would potentially want to marry. So dating someone, calling them my boyfriend, I don't do that lightly. To be honest, I've never done it. But that's because I have yet to know any man that I would then the rest of my life with.