My Story

What Do I Really Want In A Guy?

Last chapter got me thinking. God is a God of order, of details. He cares enough to count the hairs on my head, and He listens and actually cares about what I have to say to Him.

So, have I been just as detailed in asking God for what I want in a husband? For the small and big things I feel like I need? Not really, so I guess it's time I start now.

Outer looks aren't as important to me, as looks change so easily. But still I'm going to list some preferences.

Height: Somewhere between 5'6" and 6'4" would be nice. Tall enough to kiss and be kissed in public, tall enough to not look like a child next to me, but not so tall that I look like a child next to him. Preferably close to my height, so I don't feel the perpetual need to always wear heels or always wear flats.

Hair: brown, black, or red hair would be nice. Style preference: not super important, but long enough to drag my fingers through a bit.

Facial hair: clean shaven or grown out, but no scruffy sandpaper skinned, forgot to shave for 2 days, scratchy face.

Eyes: any color, glasses or contacts are fine, but have an eye for details and not colorblind.

Skin tone: any naturally occurring skin tone (orange spray tans are a no-go)

Fitness: be strong enough to pick me up, but not so buff that you look like you spend all day in the gym working out.

Age: close to mine, within 6 years either direction. I don't want to raise him as a second child, nor do I want a second father.

I want to marry a Christian. Someone who can sing with me, anywhere and everywhere. Someone who can cook and wash dishes, so we can take turns. Someone who loves to snuggle in close for a hug and a nap.

Someone with a job that has wages enough to support both of us, but understands and allows me to work if I so desire. I want a listener at home, and someone who can carry the conversation in public so I don't have to.

Someone who pays attention to the little things I say, like favorite candy bar, or favorite flower or favorite movie, & makes an effort to surprise me with one of those randomly, not just on birthdays or holidays.

Someone who quotes movies and books like I do, maybe even the same ones? But even if it's a different movie, that he be able to pull an impromptu movie night so that I can enjoy what he enjoys from that movie.

He .must. MUST mUsT have a good sense of humor, preferably playing with words, jump scares, dad jokes, sarcasm, groaners, and knee-slappers.

I pray that my tears never scare him off, even when I'm at my angriest or most insecure, but instead that my tears draw him in, to wipe them away, gather me in a hug, and maybe cry with me, but for sure to stay with me until the tears turn back to joy.

I want someone that not only likes to hug and cuddle, but will surprise me from behind with a hug at random moments, trapping my arms in close.

I want a husband who already knows how to plan his finances, stick to a budget, and prioritize the tithe as the first fruits of every check.

I want someone who knows how to be content with a little and how to stretch the funds to last when we have plenty.

I want someone who knows enough about massages to be able to get right in between my shoulder blades where I store my tension and be able to get that stress outta there.

I want someone strong enough to hold me back from a fight, but gentle enough to wipe a tear away.

I want a man who wants to have kids, either adopted or our own.

I want a Godly man who is able to lead me closer to God. Someone who already has a passion to serve in the church and compassion for the lost.

I want a man who isn't afraid to show affection in public, so he holds my hand, kisses me out of the blue, pulls me into a hug, or even gives my keister a little squeeze.

I want to be kissed, slowly and sweetly, until I can't stand it any more, to be kissed so tenderly that I melt and so passionately that I go wild.

I want someone that looks at me in grungy jeans and a sloppy t-shirt the same way he does when I'm in a slinky, svelte dress, high heels, and makeup.

I want someone to watch Doctor Who with, while enjoying his favorite shows as well.

I want someone who wants the share my snacks, but makes sure I get the last one.

I want to marry a man that sees through my façade of "I'm okay" when I'm really not, and helps me work through it.

I want someone who will ask my father for my hand in marriage before he asks me.

I want someone who sees me, flaws & all, and still desires me. Makeup or bare faced, dressed to the nines or grungy jeans & t-shirt from junior high.

I want a man who can look in my eyes and know that he can't live without me, just like I can't live without him.

I want a Godly man who is okay with waiting to have sex until we are married.

I want someone who looks at me and sees Godly character, like what was found in Rebecca, Rachel, Ruth, Esther, Deborah, Jael, the Proverbs 31 woman, Solomon's Love his Dove from Song of Songs, Elizabeth, Mary, Martha and Mary, Dorcas, & Timothy's Mother & Grandmother.

But he has to be a hugger. I need hugs all the time.