Why do girls get tough love when boys get babied? Why are girls are held under rules and one image when boys are overlooked?
Gender is a natural concept that gets contorted by adults. It isn't a label when everyone is the same.
We're only human.
I mean, crying shouldn't be a sign of weakness. It's only a human act. Being a man shouldn't mean hiding your feelings and taking whatever coming at you.
Boys can be emotional and soft. They can wear tutus and sparkly stuff. Girls can be tough and strong. They can play football and fight. Masculinity and femininity should be accepted and expected from both.
If my son wants to get his nails done with me, so be it. If my daughter wants to play baseball with her father, he better let her.
Toys should let them to explore their potential and interests. Allow them to find out a little of themselves.
Teach them respect and valuable morals, not "boys will be boys" and "sit still, look pretty". Because they are more than that. We are.
The women in my family are hell bent on girls being lady like. What the fuck is that? Boys can't be clean either? They don't know right from wrong? Can I talk to boys and not get pregnant? It irks me to my very core talking to them. (Not shaming them.) My cousin can run around town and fuck but when his sister wants to leave with him she can't because "there are too many boys." What if she was gay? What if he gets somebody pregnant than whose responsible? The girl?
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My mom understood that I like fighting, I played video games with boys, and hated the color pink with a passion. When I was younger, I asked myself all the time why couldn't I be a boy? No, I didn't question my gender. I just wanted to have privileges like boys do. I recognized the labels and rules on girls, and colored people, at a really young age.
And that's why I believe in equality and accept what I like, what I want to do, and I want others to feel the same. I feel that if boys and girls were raised with the same fundamentals, there would be much less shame and fear.
People with the same understanding or respect, at least.
