Writing with a Purpose: Summer Edition

14. 6/14/15

One of my best friends did bring something to my attention about my entry about sex that I would like to discuss.

Virginity and keeping it.

Keeping your virginity till marriage is what you're "supposed" to do and you're not supposed to fall to the temptation. Don't get me wrong, that's not bad, that's really good actually. There's a lot of virgins I know that honestly believe they should have waited a little longer before they decided to loose their virginity. I don't mean to offend anyone who does think that keeping your virginity is good or important. Staying a virgin is really good, having the will power to stay pure amazes me. On the other hand, being a virgin doesn't make you any better and I don't mean that in an offensive way. People who decide to loose their virginity, often times their first time is based off a genuine admiration for the person they loose it to. So at the end of the day, they are loosing to someone they ultimately "love," even if later in time they realize maybe it wasn't the best idea. Even if you do believe that you should have waited when looking back, if you think about the time in which it actually occurred and how you felt, you will see that you did it with love even if it wasn't through marriage. You wanted to physically connect with the person you loved at that time. When it comes to sex, people should do what they please based on whatever they believe. In society, maybe what others would want to do isn't socially accepted but we as people should be able to sexually express ourselves even if others don't like it.

Another part of virginity I wanted to discuss was respect and it's part on virginity. Me personally, I don't think respect has ANYTHING to do with keeping/loosing your virginity. Like I said, most people loose their virginity based off "love," which isn't respect. Loosing/Keeping your Virginity is also based on religions belief and following God. So maybe a respect to God.
Self-respect though, that definitely can't have anything to do with virginity. Just because you keep your virginity doesn't mean you respect yourself more than someone else. A person can fully respect themselves and still want to have sex. Therefore, being a virgin doesn't mean you're respecting yourself and having sex doesn't mean you're degrading yourself. Sex is an action and whether you have sex or not, it does not dictate your self respect.

But once again, just sharing my thoughts and whether you agree or not is your decision.