PiiXIE Dust Magazine: Issue 2

Advice

Are you happy the way you are with your family? Or do you feel like the odd one out? Do you think your parents don't care enough? Do you think each member reprimands you or don't treat you as an equal? Or is it just you?

Behaving with family is different from the way you behave with your friends, most of the times it could be an entirely differnet personality, but that shouldn't change your relationship within your family- because in the end of the day, it is your family that would stand by you in any circumtances.

If you are a closed book, if you feel you could be more closer to your family, you could utilise some of the advices given to achieve it. 

·         A bratty little sibling-

No matter how annoying they are, they are family. You don't have to spend all your time on them, nor spend too little. If you don't feel upto too much interaction, just enough affection can keep you in their favorite person list. It could be a peck on the cheek, grinning at them, a pat on the head, a small tickle or a bed time story. You coud keep them on your lap while watching TV, Help them draw/read. Just any small affection could maintain your relationship.

·         A problem filled sibling-

Lending an ear to your sibling with problems would help even if you don't have proper advice. It would reduce their burden, and strengthen your bond. All you have to do is reassure that you would be there.

·         Mother like no other-

No matter what, the one person you can usually rely on is your mother. In my opinion it is also the easiest of relationships. At the end of the day, you could talk about anything and everything. You can ask help, tell your problems, just anything because you know she won't judge you. Or you don't have to talk anything at all, because she won't judge you even then. Just try lessening her burdens, a peck on the cheek, a hug, if you want to maintain the relationship from becoming stale. But you need nothing more.

·         Daddy issues-

Your father might be behaving indifferently towards you, not caring enough. Maybe he is under a lot of stress, maybe there is communication troubles because not everyone communicates well. Try talking to him. It helps to understand. Maybe you just hadn't tried to get closer to him because of how he behaves. Try being closer, I won't say it wouldn't hurt if you were rejected, but at least you will have the satisfaction of trying.

·         Participation-

You might not feel upto it; all the get togethers and parties; but no one asks you of it. Just show up during your family dinner (Not even your extended family, just yours) you will feel a difference. Or sit together and watch a movie or just TV, its all participation.

·         Unfair treatment-

If you think you are being treated differently just confront them. Ask them, talk to them. Maybe it is all a misunderstanding. 

This advice may or may not help you, depending on your problems but it doesn't kill you to try, because there are those who don't even have the satisfaction of saying they have a family. Think about it.

If you need any help/advice with your family, or wish to address me with some problem PM me on Wattpad @race_faster or email me to race_faster7@yahoo.com.

All the advice given above is from my personal experience, with my own family, and it has worked for me, maybe it would do to you as well. Good luck

-race_faster